I do not know if Rock is trolling us or someplace on the spectrum, but others are following along, or will read these threads in the future. The more information each of us is armed with, the better choices each reader can make.
One of the things that has helped me keep it together during conversations with my W has been "how would this look if I posted it to the DB boards tomorrow?". It seemed silly at first but it's worked pretty well. I ask myself what am I trying to accomplish with this conversation and in general, what are the guidelines that R2C, Kind, Boat, DnJ, MrP and others have given me and what has worked in the past, and generally it's helped me to make progress in my life.
I can also say that other sitches I've read about here from both very old and active threads have helped me to manage expectations in my own sitch. Sure, there are WW that "wake up" and turn things around once their LBHs draw a line in the sand and move forward - we all want our wives to be Sandi. However I'm a betting man and an optimist and will say I don't think my W has the desire or awareness at present to make real changes.
All of that to say I agree with R2C on this, but also hope that when things start moving for me, I get the same tough love from users like Joseph if I slack off.
