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Boat14 #2949181 01/29/24 12:08 PM
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Originally Posted by Boat14
I don’t know maybe you are a troll if you think there is a response to that text.

I asked that question about six months ago.

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I’m asking these same questions. Not if I’m a troll but asking for ongoing support how to proceed. I have felt a lot of pressure and been overwhelmed at times as I have gotten up off the mat and been rising from the ashes. I have felt alone (I am not alone and I have a support system) returning to work. And I worry about her and my family.


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Rockon #2949191 01/29/24 03:42 PM
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You ignore and keep doing you. She just go back from two romantic getaways. She’s fine. If you are worried about your family then become the strong leader they desperately crave now.

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She emailed this morning asking if I have “time this week to talk about these things.”

Yes I am asking you in this group for advice and suggestions on how to proceed.


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That’s exactly my most important priority Boat


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Rockon #2949194 01/29/24 03:47 PM
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Hey Rock,

Go to Youtube, find "Better Call George" Go watch his top 5+ most popular videos. Take lots of notes on new ways to behave, especially if they are 180's from the old Rock. Really question yourself on almost every way you interact with women (and us men).

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Originally Posted by Rockon
She emailed this morning asking if I have “time this week to talk about these things.”

Yes I am asking you in this group for advice and suggestions on how to proceed.

"Things" meaning finances/assets?

If so, ask her to put something in an email and you will look it over.

If "I'm not doing well" is included in those "things," then that is not your concern.


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I will thanks R2C. Thanks. And what I really need to do right now is to take leadership action for my family. Work is hard but going great. My social circle is small but healthy fun and reciprocal comprised of men and women. I am working on things in therapy. And I remain focused on my health. Managing these stressors with W is an ongoing challenge.

My perception is that I need to use as few words as possible with W be clear and focused on business and listen and stfu if she wants to talk.


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Rockon #2949198 01/29/24 03:53 PM
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Originally Posted by Rockon
She emailed this morning asking if I have “time this week to talk about these things.”

Yes I am asking you in this group for advice and suggestions on how to proceed.
Talk about what things?

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Good Morning Rock

I’m glad you had an enjoyable weekend in the mountains.

Originally Posted by Rockon
Tonight she messaged me “…Things are not going well for me.”

Originally Posted by Rockon
She emailed this morning asking if I have “time this week to talk about these things.”

She’s trying to pull you in. Tugging on your heartstrings. And continuing to be rather vague. Respond with silence.

You’ve clearly stated for her to provide you with her proposal and you and your lawyer would look it over. She’s trying to regain control over you. Don’t let her. Too bad if she doesn’t like it. You do what’s best for you and your family!

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I worry about her and my family.

Worry is a thief. It robs one of the present and paralyzes one.

Here’s a suggestion. Leave any correspondence from W until the evenings. Or even just one day a week. Then at the scheduled time, read all her stuff, reply to that which you “need” to, and then go about your evening.

Before you “worry” about missing some emergency, realize emergencies will come as a call, not a text or email. If it is truly emergency urgent, W will get a hold of you.

I suspect W will ramp up her efforts. Likely pushing your buttons further. Rip those buttons out! Leave nothing she can disrupt you with. You are in control of you.

Stick to the path my friend.

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