Been here a little over 3 years, and I don't post often but I do keep up. I'm really struggling to think of 1 situation where there wasn't an affair going on, at least an emotional one.
Me: 40 EX:37 Together 17 years Married 16 years 5 kids, 20,18,15,14,11
Echoing others. The plan of a WAS is always to move on and date others. Whether they are already doing it or not. Read other people's situations and you'll see this is all very very common.
My wife kept claiming she didn't know that she wanted. If I pushed her she'd always say yes that she still wanted a divorce. Then I found her profile on a couple of well known dating sites.
Very few WASs intend to stay single forever.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
For me, having emotional/physical affair during marriage and not wanting to stay single/date other guys after marriage is two different things. I assume you were referring to the first one where there is an affair, while still in marriage (prior to BD)?
It's obvious that the majority of people wants to have a partner long-term. That is my intention too.
The thing is that she can only divorce without my mutual consent only after around 1y from now. Therefore, it's strange that she is fully committing to this now.
At least I am not emotionally affected by these moves anymore. I am still a bit curious why she is acting this way now, but that's it.
You realize that a lot of WASs date while waiting for D, right? In fact, most WASs put the cart before the horse and date before D is even filed! That's why most of the time the D is filed by the LBS.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
You realize that a lot of WASs date while waiting for D, right? In fact, most WASs put the cart before the horse and date before D is even filed! That's why most of the time the D is filed by the LBS.
Why are they not filling if they want to date other people?
Because they want to make sure they are in solid with OP first. A monkey doesn’t let go of the branch until it has its hand wrapped around another branch.
