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The Surviving the Big D forum will be archived where its threads will still be accessible for viewing. A new forum titled Ongoing Divorce Busting has been created.

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So you are getting rid of all threads from previous posters, such as Jack3Beans, Sandi, AmyC to name a very few of the people whose threads we vets refer to constantly to help the posters here?


Originally Posted by MicheleWeinerDavis
Most importantly, this forum will be where posters who have recently divorced and are trying to navigate their lives after post divorce can post and look for advice and/or support.

Forgive me for being obstuse, but isn't that what we are currently posting here on the postD forum?

Reading this, I'm sincerely unsure what I can and cannot continue to post????? And I spent a LOT of time not only DB my marriage but also paying for and working with a Divorce Busting Coach.

If I'm confused, I can only imagine how confusing this is to people with less experience here.


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This message is on the surviving forum not the new forum that is being rolled out.

Look at the top of the forum list page


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Hi Cadet,
I realize it's on the surviving forum. I intentionally posted it here because I'm sincerely confused about how what's being proposed is any different from what we already have, so why do it in the first place and why get rid of the Surviving section?

Originally Posted by Michele Weiner Davis
For posters on Surviving the Big D, please feel free to create a new thread on the Ongoing Divorce Busting forum that reflects the mission of the Board. Discussion on this forum will be for those who wish to post anything that is directly related to their situation and how divorce busting can assist them and/or guidance in navigating their current situation. Most importantly, this forum will be where posters who have recently divorced and are trying to navigate their lives after post divorce can post and look for advice and/or support.

I thought that bolded part is what we are already doing here in the Surviving section?

So, I ask again, why the re-do?

I would like some further clarity about what I can and cannot post, because this leaves a lot of room for misinterpretation.


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The Divorce Busting mission:

Originally Posted by Michele Weiner-Davis
This site, this community, is designed to support, encourage, and educate people about Divorce Busting strategies and techniques to help them improve their relationships and save their marriages.

Please post with that in mind to limit any misinterpretations.


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Originally Posted by DnJ
The Divorce Busting mission:

Originally Posted by Michele Weiner-Davis
This site, this community, is designed to support, encourage, and educate people about Divorce Busting strategies and techniques to help them improve their relationships and save their marriages.

Please post with that in mind to limit any misinterpretations.
that's not germaine to
Originally Posted by MicheleWeinerDavis
Most importantly, this forum will be where posters who have recently divorced and are trying to navigate their lives after post divorce can post and look for advice and/or support.


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Those are seemingly diametrically opposed directions.

Again, I'm not trying to be obtuse here, but I would like explicit clarity on exactly how people who are divorced can get advice and support?

Most of our marriages don't survive this.

That's reality.

Despite our best efforts at standing, DBing, working with coaches, taking the advice here, there are a LOT of people, myself included, who are now divorced who never wanted to be.

How will this new forum support us?

How will that differ from what we already have?


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Originally Posted by bttrfly
Those are seemingly diametrically opposed directions.

Again, I'm not trying to be obtuse here, but I would like explicit clarity on exactly how people who are divorced can get advice and support?

Most of our marriages don't survive this.

That's reality.

Despite our best efforts at standing, DBing, working with coaches, taking the advice here, there are a LOT of people, myself included, who are now divorced who never wanted to be.

How will this new forum support us?

How will that differ from what we already have?

Not sure I agree that these issues are opposed.
The thing about DB is that we can only control one person and YOU (not you bttrfly) are that person.
ie you can control yourself no one else.

I would refer to this thread about posting

https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2553122#Post2553122


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I have read your link, Cadet. Thank you. However, it does not answer my questions which are specifically about people who end up divorced. With all due respect I ask once again:

1. Again, I'm not trying to be obtuse here, but I would like explicit clarity on exactly how people who are divorced can get advice and support?

Most of our marriages don't survive this.

That's reality.

Despite our best efforts at standing, DBing, working with coaches, taking the advice here, there are a LOT of people, myself included, who are now divorced who never wanted to be.

2. How will this new forum support us? - specifically people who are divorced and trying to navigate our post-D lives?

3.How will that differ from what we already have?


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