So I’m going to an intake today for a strength, speed, agility and athletic training program! Later on meeting my best friend for a beer then hanging out with D and capping it off playing hockey tonight!
Tomorrow lunch at Pastor and his wife’s then heading into the mountains with S for the rest of the weekend.
“I want to thank you for how kind you have been to me over the past many months. I am thankful for you and for all of the ways that you continue to love and serve our family. I know that you’re trying to do what is right in a difficult situation. I appreciate you, thanks again for all of your efforts and kindness. ☺️
Oh FFS, PLEASE tell me you didn’t reply to that BS???
BL42 is spot on - that’s her seeking affirmation to quench her guilt.
If she thinks you’re such a good person, why leave and rip your family apart?
LBSs crave these sort of breadcrumbs - because they are desperate to see or hear anything which suggests that things might go back to how they were. So generally, they respond with some gushing “you’re welcome” type response to be a nice guy - and that’s a HUGE turnoff to a WAW/WW. If you completely ignore her message, you’re happy, busy and going out all the time - she might wonder what she’s missing out on.
Perhaps it will help if I translate her message:
“I want to thank you for being a door-mat in the face of my shi**y behaviour over the past many months. I feel super secure chasing after some stupid midlife crisis dream and other men, knowing you’ll continue to love and serve our family and I have a safety blanket available while I blow up our lives. I appreciate you, but not enough to honor my vows.
How about “ I love and serve our kids and will continue to do so moving forward. As for you where do you want me to send your things? If you don’t remove them by xxxx I’ll put them in a storage unit and send you the bill.
How about “ I love and serve our kids and will continue to do so moving forward. As for you where do you want me to send your things? If you don’t remove them by xxxx I’ll put them in a storage unit and send you the bill.
Do you still have some of her things??? If so, perfect response.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
Scored a couple goals and had a couple assists.was just the best being out with the guys. Came home and had snacks and a glass of wine listening to classical music with D. Ya I’m good.
What I am afraid of about divorce: Really our kids being estranged from their mom and hurts from her. I have pain confusion disillusionment anger etc so I recognize I need healing but the hurts have already happened for me.
Our kids are each dealing with things in their own way and they are smart and probably understand or assume a lot more than I am talking about with them. I imagine each of them being hurt deeply if we D.
I don’t think that D is necessarily the worst outcome or the wrong one but I don’t want it and believe it to be awful, terrible and sad. I don’t want to give up because I am not a quitter. I don’t want to regret. I guess I am afraid of regret. I’m afraid of displeasing God. I am afraid of taking the “easy” way out tho I don’t think any of this is easy.
I’m afraid of hurting my parents and siblings and friends. Not out of shame but because they love us so much. I’m afraid of having less to give our kids and grandkids.
