This thread is over 100 posts so the mods are going to want you to start a new one...
I'd love for your focus in the new thread to be you getting indignant over what she's done, growing a backbone and standing up for yourself, reclaiming your power and strength, flipping the narrative to be whether or not you are going to give her a chance to win you back.
Remember the best chance you have to save the marriage is you truly being at peace with it being over and completely moving forward without her. Don't slowly ease her transition into her new life; pull the rug out from under her. She needs to feel like you've moved on and she may have lost you for good.
Have you taken that wreath she gave you down off the door yet and tossed it in the garbage? To be clear, that is not a rhetorical question.
Last edited by BL42; 12/09/2203:13 AM.
Me:39 Ex-W:37 M:7 T: 9 S:6 D:3 BD/IHS/Confirm EA/PA: Feb '20 OM1 affair ends: May '20 W/OM2 & moves out: June-July '20 W files for D: Jul20 OM2 confirmed: 9/2020 Divorced: May '21
Yes, “no” is an acceptable answer. No need to give her the bed. What is she expecting for you. To sleep on the couch? What about your back?
Noticed how she got upset/angry as soon as you paused, kind of said no, did not go along with her fantasy narrative of how this should all go down? No matter what, if you gave her the bed and the kitchen sink, she’d find something to be upset “at you” about. Of course, it’s not really about you. Is it? She’s mad with her consequences and blaming you. Hold her accountable for her actions.
And yes, please start a new thread. (Thanks BL )
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Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
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