DonH Midwest Me 56 WAW-EXW 55 Met 11/95 / Married 5/00 Bomb 6/20/05 / She Filed on 6/2/06 / Divorced on 10/9/06 4 who'd qualify as GF since D & dated about 25 women since D
Date 2: I am having his baby and we are eloping as soon as he is divorced.
Thank you for the best belly laugh of the day as I head for bed. Well played!!!
DonH Midwest Me 56 WAW-EXW 55 Met 11/95 / Married 5/00 Bomb 6/20/05 / She Filed on 6/2/06 / Divorced on 10/9/06 4 who'd qualify as GF since D & dated about 25 women since D
So I get because you have anxious attachment issues like CW you are always going to go from 0-60 in seconds if the man is leading you there. I have accepted it. Once concerns me is you believe everything you hear and see right out of the gate.
Originally Posted by Ginger1
Let’s just say his interest level is high. And he is extremely genuine .
High interest or needy? How could you possibly know he is genuine after one meetup?
Originally Posted by Ginger1
He will be away for a few weeks and D is away. I don’t think accepting a date 3 days later is going to make or break or us.
I actually agree. BUT (Mach) if he was genuine he would certainly wait.
Originally Posted by Ginger1
He has been separated for a few months. They had been separated before that as well.
So if he was into self improvement he would have looked at dating while separated and would have learned that it probably isn't a good idea. I believe Wolfman dated while separated.
Originally Posted by Ginger1
It’s a short term marriage and no children came from it. She was a manipulative binge drinker and abusive when she drank. He was done after giving her another chance .
Possible.
Originally Posted by Ginger1
Papers are almost signed. He closes on his new place tomorrow.( he was not living with her in the meantime )
Papers almost signed is good. I believe that's what S was selling Andy P too.
Originally Posted by Ginger1
We had a candid open talk last night.
Sure why not after a meetup lay the cards on the table?
Originally Posted by Ginger1
He’s not the “I’m free woohoo type”
So remind me again how you know he is not the woohoo type?
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but we both agreed that he does need his time single and to take a breather from everything .
Well as long as you both agreed.
Originally Posted by Ginger1
We agreed to be friends that kiss, lol.
So is that FTK?
Originally Posted by Ginger1
I have decided I am not going to have sex with him and I told him as much and he’s completely understanding .
I would totally test you on that statement to see if you were a woman of your word.
Originally Posted by Ginger1
He’s seriously kind sweet and empathetic.
Awwww. Just like the Texan.
Originally Posted by Ginger1
We know timing timing stinks.
Well that's why you don't go on dating apps when your married. It's bad timing.
Originally Posted by Ginger1
Anyways, for the men out there. Does he have a good career stay fit and dress nice, and drive a decent car ? Yes. Ia that attractive ?
Oh thanks for letting us know a High Status male is attractive. We haven't heard that here.
Originally Posted by Ginger1
Sure. But the most attractive part of his is his genuinity, not trying to be a certain way because he thinks that’s what women wants. He comes as his self .
You have no fuching idea who this guy is other than he is on dating apps while stilled married.
Originally Posted by Ginger1
And we can sniff out when men are trying to be what they think a woman wants to be rather than just being themselves .
Like you sniffed out the Texan.
Originally Posted by Ginger1
Vulnerability , honesty, good conversation that goes beyond the surface level. Very attractive.
Yes I agree. Just not on the phone call after a meetup.
Originally Posted by Ginger1
His love for his family is as well.
How could you possible know he loves his family??????????
Look G the bottom line is like you said it will either work or it won't. But if it goes south and you can't come here complaining about your bad luck with men because you ignore YOUR own rules.
Having said all that I really hope it works out because he is a handsome man.
When I say something about a guy, it’s my current impression. I am not an idiot or new at this. I won’t know really who he is until we have been hanging out for a while. When I make a statement about his personality, its a real time observation. I’m still observing continually. Should I really always just date someone thinking they are a piece of poop? No. I give the benefit of the doubt and go from there.
I don’t know why accepting a second date in the same week is going 0-60? Because I didn’t turn him down when I was free and my daughter was away it’s 0-60? Schedules lined up which is never ever easy for me.
Vulnerability : talking about experiences that has shaped him.
How do I know he loves his family. He talks about them very positively, is close with his siblings and his parents. That again is the impression I get. I guess I don’t “know” but then again, I have no reason to not to think he doesn’t .
Isn’t this the stuff you assess for while dating? You talk, get to know eachother and then observe.
Guess what. Anytime I have followed my “rules” it has worked out well either.
Like dating anyone , it will either turn out well, or it won’t . It is what it is . For now, I enjoy spending time with him, he enjoys spending time with me. How do I know his interest is high? I mean, again, I’m not an idiot. He communicates. He asks me out, he plans dates, he thinks I’m beautiful. That’s how you guess someone’s interest level. How do you know the interest level of the woman you are dating LH? I imagine the same way.
And btw, a guy who is attractive , has decent job and car makes them “high status? “ I think it just makes them regular dudes.
