Need advice please. (3)

[BL42]

Dink ,

Dink if you feel you can handle it without letting your emotions get the best of you then meet with her and try to agree to a settlement. If not then tell her to email you want she wants and you can look it over and get back to her.

I agree w/LH but that's a big IF for most LBSs. Probably better / safer to stick to email which will also serve to A) you time to think about it before response and B) have it in writing to avoid future confusion or "memory loss".

[SteveLW]

What is there to spilt up? I find most divorcing couples make this a bigger deal than it is. So before you decide how to proceed you need to ask yourself what there is to discuss? I'm guessing most things can be decided pretty easily.

[Dink]

So I replied and just said, I have plans the rest of this week. Possibly next week or the week after.

As you said Steve there really isn't much to figure out, we are not millionaires, with business etc lol

We have already a little while back kind of discussed already.


Then she replied I was think of next week. If you don’t have time we will have to use lawyers, whatever you want.

If you decide on Lawyers I would be using and she said a local lawyer in town.


I have not responded

[BL42]

Dink,

Have you consulted with a L yet? If not, you should. Typically a free (or nominal fee) consult to explain your rights. You don't have to retain or pay them a lot if you can (preferably) work out an amicable agreement with W.

You don't have to meet in person to avoid a contested divorce. Email would work fine for dividing out your assets.

[LH19]

Dink

Why did you put it off? Do you want to spend more money on lawyer fees than you have to?

[SteveLW]

Sounds like she has already lawyered up. Dink you have to protect yourself. At least get a free consultation.

[Dink]

I responded. I, myself was not considering a lawyer. As far as next week it should work. Let me know time and place.

Then she responded That’s fine. I know we didn’t want to. But that was before you stopped all communication.

[SteveLW]

I responded. I, myself was not considering a lawyer. As far as next week it should work. Let me know time and place.

Then she responded That’s fine. I know we didn’t want to. But that was before you stopped all communication.

Meh. They always find an excuse.

[Dink]

I knew she was being a blow hard about the lawyer stuff. She has no clue about how to do anything, it was a scare tactic to try to control the situation. I think her man friend is the one putting [censored] in her head because he has went thru a divorce.

[SteveLW]

Well you should limit your responses to "need to know" information. What you've considered or not considered she doesn't need to know. She knows how to push your buttons.