Yeah vetting your dating choices through your kids before they happen seems like a good idea to me. (Insert LH eyer roll)
Heeding the opinions of someone who knows both parties and has my best interests in mind does indeed make a lot of sense.
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LH do you forget he was warned strongly by his kids not to date the woman who turned out to be the hoarder? I’d say his kids have a good track record and it would be wise to listen to their veto.
What I am saying is Andrew is an adult and should be self aware enough to be able to spot red flags on his own. Based on the fact the last time his father dated his world got flipped upside down I am not shocked his son gave it the thumbs down.
If I came home and beat my kids every time I had a drink what do you think the answer would be if I said "Kids do you think it's a good idea if dad goes out drinking"?
He is an adult of ten years now, hardly a kid anymore. Kids grow, become wiser, and can offer useful viewpoints and suggestions. He is not the hurt lad of six years ago.
I know you know son does not have veto power over your choices. He offers a well intentioned caution methinks. One it benefits you to heed, IMHO. A caution I believe you are seeing yourself as well.
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Your son is wise. After all, look who raised him. I know you are lonely, but proceed with caution. I hope your book date turns out to be your best date ever. I can't wait to see "who" it is.
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So you have different political views and you each respect each other’s differences in opinions but yet you can’t date her because she has a different view. She has nice curves and is a bath bomb supplier yet you are going to walk away. Makes sense to me.
I wouldn't want to date someone who's *intense* about views that are *extreme* compared to my own. It's hard enough to integrate people with *intense* views OR *extreme* views into one's life--the combo would be a double whammy. I'm imagining regularly bringing someone into my home who refuses to vax, mask, or rapid test--my D would move in with mom! I'd never be able to include them in my trips and get-togethers. Imagine if through some accident we had children together?! Altogether sounds like a path to avoid. I think Andrew's son knows Andrew and his feedback is valid. I agree to not ask son about every Tinder match he swipes right on, but this is a bit different, someone they've been acquainted with for years.
