I haven't been here in awhile, since I probably won't log in very often now, I will try to do a quick update while I'm here.
This site was a lifesaver for me, but I feel like i've outgrown it I don't feel like I belong to any of the boards - definitely not a newcomer anymore, but I'm not yet divorced, and I couldn't care less about ExH's MLC. But what's really keeping me away from here is this site is not mobile friendly, and I do not want to be on the computer when I get home after a day of working in the office lol.
oh yes, H is still stalling on the D. but i won't bore you guys with the details.
Work is going great. Finished a few projects with great results and my boss is always willing to let me take on more. the only problem at work now is that I have a defensive colleague who does not want to share his work with anyone on the team, and my boss being new, is also having a hard time dealing with this guy who holds a lot of info that is crucial to the functioning of the team.
anyways. This pandemic seems like it will go on for a lot longer than we all expected, given that new variants keep popping up. I wonder if we would ever return to the old normal.
this side of the world is only getting caught up on pandemic, and I am already tired of it!
Join us on the Surviving the Big D part of the forum - just because you're not formally done doesn't mean we don't have support to share! And experience with the divorce process to share.
Glad work is going well for you. God bless the child that has their own.
Have you been able to get vaccinated where you are? The good news is the Pfizer and Moderna vaccines still give us 90% protection against the current variants including the Delta variant. Everybody is tired of the pandemic but don't drop your guard now. I see though that Australia doesn't have that great a vaccination rate so far, if that's where you are.
Have you been able to get vaccinated where you are? The good news is the Pfizer and Moderna vaccines still give us 90% protection against the current variants including the Delta variant. Everybody is tired of the pandemic but don't drop your guard now. I see though that Australia doesn't have that great a vaccination rate so far, if that's where you are.
It def ain't Summer here kml...brrrrr.
We've struggled with vax rates for a couple of reasons. Firstly, we approved AstraZeneca, which has since shown to have to some risks around blood clots, it's developed quite the reputational problem here. Up unitl yesterday the advice was that only over 60s should have AZ.
That only leaves us with Pfizer and given that we don't manufacture it here and are relying on limited availability we only have approx. 4% fully vaccinated.
We've got a bit of a second wave outbreak going on here which probs wouldn't have happened if we were better vaccinated. However, pretty grateful that we've had less than 1,000 deaths here, even if it does mean we're behind the ROW for 6-12 months.
Me: 41 W:42 T: 14 M: 11 S: 6
"What happened happened, and couldn't have happened any other way...because it didn't"
Yeah, you've done well down under so far (I follow a musician who moved back to Australia from the US so he could tour again. Ben Lee. ) I do worry though with this much more contagious Delta variant, low vaccination rates and general pandemic fatigue, that things could get bad there now. Be careful.
I always liked his music, did a few movies too if I recall.
The city I'm in has just had an outbreak of the Delta, largest new daily cases was 31 a few days ago, but we've fallen since then, 18 yesterday. They've opened AZ up to under 60s now so hopefully this help speed up the vaccinations. We are a pretty compliant society by nature, so mandatory masks and stay at home orders should do the trick, appreciate the thoughts and care.
Me: 41 W:42 T: 14 M: 11 S: 6
"What happened happened, and couldn't have happened any other way...because it didn't"
You sound very healed. And I get the non-mobile friendliness you refer to. I usually type on my iPad. Like you, I’d rather not sit and surf at my desk on my computer; my couch is much more comfortable.
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Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
Oh man! My eldest definitely knows that the tooth fairy is not real now!!
I just try to sneak into his room to swap out his tooth with money, only to find out his door was locked and I don’t have a key to his door!!! (We’re in a new rental) I was googling “how to pick a lock” at 12am!!! Lol!!
I was just about to give up, I tried his door one last time and- voila! It was unlocked. I opened the door and he was asleep, but I swear he was pretending to be asleep!! I gingerly gave him a kiss and swap out the tooth under his pillow with money, but I’m 99.9% sure he was playing me hahahaha. Should I pretend to not know tomorrow morning??
Kml- We still don’t have enough vaccines yet here, we are just starting our first wave of vaccinating the elderly- my parents are getting their shots tomorrow. For the rest of us- not optimistic that we’re gonna get it this summer.
Thanks for the invite to the other board! I may just jump over one day!
Wooba, I love that story. I agree with DnJ-- take his lead.
My eldest pieced it all together (including Santa) this year from the tooth fairy... she found something (I can't remember what it was now) that led her to believe that her most recent tooth fairy note had been written in the office-- something in the garbage, or a pen, or something. I pointed out that the tooth fairy could have sat down and written the note at the desk, and she said, also the tooth fairy has Daddy's handwriting (which is a bummer since he always tries to write in this formal script for the TF). So she asked if the TF was real or if Mom and Dad did the swap. I told her the truth, we talked about it for awhile. She asked about the Easter Bunny and same thing. She did NOT ask about Santa. She went and had the same conversation with H.
A few hours later, she came up to me and sat down next to me, and asked about Santa. It was so sweet and sad that Santa was a big enough different deal that she didn't want to ask right away, even though she knew the answer. We talked a lot about Santa and how Santa is like the Christmas spirit, and we do things to show each other how much we love each other in a special way around Christmastime because of the spirit of Santa. That once her dad had stood in line outside of ToysRus to buy this giant stupid LOL doll thing (don't ask) that he did not approve of, but it was totally his idea to get it as a surprise for them and he did it because he knew how much they would love it. She brightened up and said YES, that is right, Santa is real in a way, because Daddy never would have done that otherwise. (True.) We talked about some other special things that we'd done in the spirit of Santa and it was a really sweet and special conversation. And that is where we are.
I think she kind of knew for a pretty long time, but didn't want to ask and know for sure until she was ready. I'm really glad we did it that way. So I guess i'd recommend the same... let him ask you but be ready to go wherever he takes you with it.
Glad to hear so many things are going well!
xx May
Me (46) H (42) M:14 T:18, D9 & D11 4/19 - 12/19: series of escalating BDs 9/20 - present: R and piecing
Hello all, it’s been awhile! I tried to come back a few times but the website wasn’t working for me for some reason. Anyhow- I signed the papers yesterday! We are officially divorced in this country. We are still married in the US though- that will have to wait until either one of us goes back. That’s good enough for me now. Didn’t think it would be any different, but I felt a world of difference after signing. Just want to come back and share with everyone. Miss everyone here!
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Thanks ladies. The boys so far have been doing well. But Halloween night S2 got upset and said he wanted us to all spend holidays together as a family. I explained that being “together” physically doesn’t not mean that we are actually “together”. The idea of family is different now, and I can live authentically, which is very important to my well-being. And my well-being translates to the well-being of them.
Anyone else watched “maid” on Netflix lately? I strangely find a connection to the story. The feeling of being stuck in a unhealthy relationship, not being able to distinguish the kind of love that I was receiving vs the kind of love I deserved…I’ve been trying to dig through my memory to find all the signs along the way that show that I should have left a long time ago.
I read “untamed” recently also.
And things are starting to click. What I was experiencing in my marriage was that I pushed my needs so far behind everyone else’s - and I thought that was the right thing to do. There were many times were I felt like things are not supposed to be this way, but I talked myself into thinking I should be grateful for what I have.
It is quite scary, looking back and seeing how long I put up with this. And scarier to think that if it wasn’t for exH’s bomb drop, I would have probably still be in the same situation now.
I hear you on this. It seemed to me like accommodating your spouse was part of marriage, right? (And it is). But in retrospect, I did all the accommodating. Every man I have dated since my ex has treated me better than he did.
I don't feel like I belong to any of the boards - definitely not a newcomer anymore, but I'm not yet divorced, and I couldn't care less about ExH's MLC. But what's really keeping me away from here is this site is not mobile friendly, and I do not want to be on the computer when I get home after a day of working in the office lol.
