Me: I’m not leaving Me: Ever (stop being passive aggressive) Her: I’m not moving to the studio Me: crickets
I suggest you work on a boundary about discussing OM with you. Zero respect.
No need for thank you for letting me know.
Your W is a kook and is not coming back anytime soon.
Chin up.
Funny, I didn't mean for that part to be passive aggressive, just more explanatory, but I can see it now. As you can imagine, the above already took a lot of editing on my part and focus on not saying what I would've in the past.
She also sent this a while after the above exchange:
"It was nice to hear your voice yesterday and hear stories about our kids and how amazing of a dad you are. Thank you for showing up for them."
It seems quite strange how she started sended a bunch of message after you put in a boundary, something to think about maybe. Also weird that she brought up seeing the OM to you and telling you why she did without you asking her, and then also telling you where she is at or giving a general update about removing dating profiles, etc. and then saying doesnt owe you further explanations. Wondering why she gave you the update in the first place.
How did all her messages and updates make you feel or think about the situation, did it give you hope or make you overthink?
Hang in there man and be strong when you see her.
Me 32, W 24 T 6, M 3 No kids BD: Aug 2020 OM: Jan 2021 Wife to file soon
So I’ll translate what’s going on. Her and OM are planning the future together. That’s why she’s coming off the dating sites. Until that’s solidified she’ll string along SD in case something goes wrong. She knows just what to say to string him along.
What would happen to you if you didn’t respond? Would you go into convulsions?
How is saying "you're welcome" bad though? In the past I would've said, "it was good to hear your voice too" or something along those lines, I just said "you're welcome" instead.
It seems quite strange how she started sended a bunch of message after you put in a boundary, something to think about maybe. Also weird that she brought up seeing the OM to you and telling you why she did without you asking her, and then also telling you where she is at or giving a general update about removing dating profiles, etc. and then saying doesnt owe you further explanations. Wondering why she gave you the update in the first place.
How did all her messages and updates make you feel or think about the situation, did it give you hope or make you overthink?
Hang in there man and be strong when you see her.
She brought it up because we hadn't talked since the last blowup where I made it clear if anything physical happened there would be no chance of moving forward, so this was her both letting me know what did or didn't happen along with her saying this would be the last time she does so. Her messages didn't impact me how they would in the past and haven't changed anything about how I feel at this point. I don't believe anything she says anymore.
What would happen to you if you didn’t respond? Would you go into convulsions?
How is saying "you're welcome" bad though? In the past I would've said, "it was good to hear your voice too" or something along those lines, I just said "you're welcome" instead.
You didn’t answer the question. What would happen if you didn’t respond?
Grand scheme “you’re welcome” “I love hearing your voice” puke etc. changes nothing. It’s about your beliefs and values on how you let people treat you.
You didn’t answer the question. What would happen if you didn’t respond?
Nothing would happen.
Originally Posted by LH19
Grand scheme “you’re welcome” “I love hearing your voice” puke etc. changes nothing. It’s about your beliefs and values on how you let people treat you.
So less about what you say and more about not saying anything at all. I was just trying to be more "brief."
