Pay close attention to what the dog thinks of him. (And check the dogs tags if you get a chance - hope it’s not his current girlfriend’s dog!) .
Remember a coffee date is not a real date - it’s just like meeting someone at a party and chatting by the guacamole dip. It’s a chance to see if he IS someone you would be willing to go on a date with.
Good luck!
Hi kml, I posted in full all the details. I lost interest in him at hello, so didn't care too much about the dog..lol.. but good points in the future.
I'd say that a coffee date is like speed dating. To me, it's still a date. You make plans and follow through. Getting out there and talking to a stranger in either situation, might lead you to ask yourself would you do it again? I will try again. Not with that coffee guy. But I'd go on another coffee date meet another.
Oh how I miss social gatherings, and now I'm craving guacamole!
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Good job! You got some practice, and you learned a few things. First of all, pictures don’t always match reality. (I think this is more of a problem with women than men, but men definitely like to put up photos of themselves when they were younger.)
Second - you got some good clues out of his work history. Doesn’t sound like he’s too functional an adult. Possibly living with his mom and watching her dog? Also - heads up, but according to my son who did some kitchen prep work and my friend’s daughter who is a chef, there’s a lot of substance abuse and toxic masculinity in kitchen work.
Third - this is why you don’t give out your personal contact information before the coffee date (good job there!).
Four - this is why you get the coffee date out of the way early. It’s too easy to start to feel like you’re in a relationship talking online, then meet and realize there’s no chemistry! Better to find out early. (Note well: this advice IS coming from a woman who completely broke that rule once - carrying on 3 months of daily chat and then going to meet him several hours drive away! I got insanely lucky -we dated for a while until his childhood girlfriend found him on Facebook, but we are still friends many years later. But I do know now how foolhardy that was).
Remember, if you were at a party full of singles, you might talk to three or four guys in the course of an evening. This is just that. It’s a numbers game and you’ll probably need to meet several guys before you find a dateable choice.
Hey! You got your feet wet! Or at least a little toe. lol
I think guacamole sounds fab. Possibly, probably, better than the coffee with Chia, but you did it. You put yourself out there and you were safe and smart about it. That's a win!
I have not had my first meet-up yet. Still waiting for my friend to set up a meet with 'Bud'.
KML - I love your advice. I'm following this!
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He had marked that he had kids, and that wasn't true. A "mistake" he didn't notice. I never asked before hand, but whatever. I asked him about his job (he listed business owner). A chef of sorts, but now takes photos of food at home for menus. (ummmm okay.... )...
LOL - "entrepreneur". On the other hand my now ex-father-in-law would just tell people that I was unemployed when in fact I did free-lance for about 11 years.
Well done CanBird.
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Guess who has a job interview THIS Friday! This opportunity pays more, is full-time, lots of great benefits, remote/virtual. Customer service based in the same field (dental). A liaison between patients & offices. So excited!! It'll be a video interview with 3 on the panel. I've got a home office and they supply the rest. (Computer & dual screens). Other than having to get a wifi upgrade (faster internet), I'm ready!
*I've got more news to share. Will wait for new thread. The BIG Duck Deal..tbc*
Ps-All good with other things....stay turned
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You will awe the interviewers. This is such exciting news for you and I hope that everything works out and you get the job.
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