Picked up the kids from her. She asked if she can help me out I said “no thanks”. She said “tell me what you need I want to help,” I said “I’m good.”She asked if we can go to lunch sometime I said “no”. I backed away from her and she walked up and hugged me, smelled my cologne and said “I don’t know you wear that”. I just smirked and left. That was it.
T:11 M:10 K: D5, S7 BD: 9/1/20 WW continues to break up and recon with OM. I paid last fees and pushed the D 5/3/2021 Default Dissolution granted 8/5/21. Glad my D was not busted.
Your right I backed away and she was like “oh c’mon” and came towards me. I didn’t want to be a jerk but I didn’t like it. I don’t want to touch her. She’s a piece of crap.she told me she’s sleeping on the couch, my son told me he got up at night and looked for her and she was in bed with OM. F her. She doesn’t deserve me. Next time she comes in for a hug I’m just gonna walk away. I don’t even care. Her words are all BS. I’m just glad I didn’t hug her this time I backed up kept it like 1 syllable responses and left. She did the work to hug me and etc.. I did nothing and yes it happened but I’m proud it wasn’t on me. But for sure I’m not letting it happen again. She’s such a lying ass manipulator. She is scum. Even if I did make mistakes I did nothing close to this. I’m better than this.
T:11 M:10 K: D5, S7 BD: 9/1/20 WW continues to break up and recon with OM. I paid last fees and pushed the D 5/3/2021 Default Dissolution granted 8/5/21. Glad my D was not busted.
You are doing much better Steve. Conversations could be shorter still. I see and understand your anger. Use it to move in YOUR direction.
"I dont want them to be poor." The brain on that woman. Is there one? Next time tell her your kids WILL be rich. They'll be rich with love. Great you said no to her (OMs?) money and help!
Me: 34 Stbxw: 30 D:5 D:3 Mini bd: May/June 2019 Married: Aug 2019 BD: 6th Dec 2019 OM Confirmed: Feb 2020 March 2020: I filed for D Waiting for D to be finalized and W to move out end of January 2021
its great that you are making such progress.. You try and control the anger.. Its not positive or good for your state of mind.. Just try and remain indifferent - think check out clerk at the store..
Also curious - The LBS rose tinted glasses have finally dropped - thats brilliant, as its takes some LBS years ! and you are making great progress. But if WW ended it with other man and wanted you back tomorrow, would you consider it ? I can't see you referening that on yours posts?
Previous username - Helpme123.. A name chosen at a desperate time..
Now Mr Brightside.. coming out of my cage, and doing just fine.
If my W would do the things I would need from her to make this right yes I would try to recon. But, she won’t, it would be hard to admit what she’s done, it would be hard to commit to being a better woman and she’s shown I’m not worth effort to keep, so I’d say recon is not likely at all. I made this realization a couple days ago. That’s why I was able to drop the pick me dance and see it for what it is. Disgusting.
T:11 M:10 K: D5, S7 BD: 9/1/20 WW continues to break up and recon with OM. I paid last fees and pushed the D 5/3/2021 Default Dissolution granted 8/5/21. Glad my D was not busted.
With all due resect Steve, your WW is a serial cheater.
This isnt a silly WW losing her way for 6 months.
I believe she will come crawling back to you at some point.
And if you let her back into your life ( even if she agreed to terms at the time ), its only a matter of time before it went full circle again - She is broken - she is a serial cheater.
You just need to decide if you want to set yourself back by accepting her, or making the most of this oppertunity you have been offered.
Previous username - Helpme123.. A name chosen at a desperate time..
Now Mr Brightside.. coming out of my cage, and doing just fine.
I believe she will come crawling back to you at some point.
And if you let her back into your life ( even if she agreed to terms at the time ), its only a matter of time before it went full circle again - She is broken - she is a serial cheater.
Yep. Cant change a leopards spots I guess, I’m not even worried about her anymore, she disgusts me. She called me last night, texted me, told me to call her. I didn’t.
Her mom told me this morning T is trying to call you, why don’t you answer? I just said oh I didn’t know.
I messaged her and said this:
You told me the last lie, our kids saw you. Stop calling me, texting me, don’t even waste your time. Unless it’s about the kids custody or a medical emergency I will not respond.
She has zero reason to reach out. She has been daily and just not getting the hint. Tired of it. I will not be her buddy while she F’s some other dude.
Last edited by Steve_; 11/09/2005:53 PM.
T:11 M:10 K: D5, S7 BD: 9/1/20 WW continues to break up and recon with OM. I paid last fees and pushed the D 5/3/2021 Default Dissolution granted 8/5/21. Glad my D was not busted.
