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Re: Made it a year - part 4 [Re: kas99] #2900324
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He's not doing well because he "might" have to pay more than he is now and the cash isn't flowing as much as it was. He spent instead of saving so he's not ready for this. He thought when he walked out that the D would only cost $250 and he wouldn't have to pay me anything so he's just mad.

Yesterday marked the one year anniversary of NC, 15 months since the BD. Still can't believe I'm getting a divorce after 30 years together and while I'm incredibly sad life is surprisingly better without him in it.

Re: Made it a year - part 4 [Re: kas99] #2900329
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Glad to hear your attorney is on it. I never understood why you didn't have an order for temporary support right from the start.

Re: Made it a year - part 4 [Re: kml] #2900333
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Originally Posted by kml
Glad to hear your attorney is on it. I never understood why you didn't have an order for temporary support right from the start.


I tried to "nice" him back so I cancelled the hearing scheduled right after he left. Held onto hope until he cancelled the lease. I knew in my gut at that point that there was someone else and she was confirmed a couple months later. I filed the next day but that attorney was inept and I don't like confrontations. Took me a while to get mad but I like to believe everything happens for a reason so waiting actually benefited me.

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Hey Kas99,

How’s life going?

How’s your detachment going (not caring if life’s going swell or mediocre for your ex)?


May'19 - separation. | Dec'19, Oct'20, Jan'21 - painful breakups. | Jan'21 - freedom!
"We the ones who play hard, we live hard, we love hard, we light up the dark." -- Kesha

Re: Made it a year - part 4 [Re: kas99] #2905325
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Hey Kas,

It's been a couple months. I hope no news is good news. Take care!


May'19 - separation. | Dec'19, Oct'20, Jan'21 - painful breakups. | Jan'21 - freedom!
"We the ones who play hard, we live hard, we love hard, we light up the dark." -- Kesha

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Hi Kas,

I wonder how you're doing. I was surprised your legal proceedings took so long (my services were completed within days, not months), but crazy early days of COVID. You left just as you said they were getting underway. I hope you were able to get the support you're legally entitled to AND let go of some of your anger towards your ex. Wishing you and yours a wonderful life, whether or not you ever see or reply to these messages.

FYI, you were the one who nudged me to *consider* reconciling with my ex-wife after walking away from her 10yrs ago. I went through the process of considering it--thank you! I guess the primary driver would be a big win for the kids, and kml pointed out, it may not be. My son doesn't even remember a 2-parent home! She and I are communicating more though, and that is something very positive I hope to foster. Maybe, someday, we can be friends. (:


May'19 - separation. | Dec'19, Oct'20, Jan'21 - painful breakups. | Jan'21 - freedom!
"We the ones who play hard, we live hard, we love hard, we light up the dark." -- Kesha

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