I don't want a divorce II NEW THREAD Pt 20

[KitCat]

Thank you STEVE85 and Ginger for making me look inward - it doesn't change my thoughts but I know you are both looking out for me.

I'm still processing some thoughts in general and some anger issues which I think are stemming more from disappointment... its just generalities and I will write more later once I've sat with them some more.

H texted today "need to figure out a time to get together to over paperwork"

Fair enough.

He had called on Monday but I had not initiated any contact this week outside a very brief business email about financials. I feel good that I emailed and just never bothered to follow up. Everyone is right he is an adult and I should not have to remind him that we need to go over paperwork.

Regardless this week I'm focusing on me and S19 as in 8 days I will be moving him into the dorm.

H and his paperwork can wait.

So far have not responded to his text.

[SteveLW]

"Please send the paperwork to my lawyer."

[LH19]

Kk,

I disagree with Steve. Sucked it up and work something out prior to presenting to lawyer.

[KitCat]

Kk,

I disagree with Steve. Sucked it up and work something out prior to presenting to lawyer.

I'm not wanting to do this but this could be depending on his guilt level 50-80k in my favor... I think I'm going to have to suck it up... BUT, it can be on my timeline.

"right now I'm finalizing S19's move to college so it will have to be after X date, in the meantime please get me the insurance information I have requested"

hmmm... maybe that is too long?

[LH19]

The longer this goes on the more time for him to a have change of heart.

[KitCat]

The longer this goes on the more time for him to a have change of heart.

Truth.

And, I'm having zero expectations. S19 leaves in 8 days... its already been 6months and I suppose from his end he is probably getting impatient.

Frankly, his son is also in town for another 8 days so he should really spending time with him as well. IDK if he even knows at this point he is soon to be Grandpa H. Not my concern though for sure.

[SteveLW]

Kk,

I disagree with Steve. Sucked it up and work something out prior to presenting to lawyer.

Normally I'd agree. But KC needs to be as far a distance from her H as possible. She's an addict and needs to go cold turkey.

[LH19]

When I say change of heart I mean on what he verbally agreed to give you.

2-5 plus years on feeling he may have made wrong choice.

[KitCat]

When I say change of heart I mean on what he verbally agreed to give you.

2-5 plus years on feeling he may have made wrong choice.

I assumed that!!! Frankly because he has shown ZERO signs of leaning in toward the M.

[KitCat]

Kk,

I disagree with Steve. Sucked it up and work something out prior to presenting to lawyer.

Normally I'd agree. But KC needs to be as far a distance from her H as possible. She's an addict and needs to go cold turkey.

I understand this... I do.

I'm not initiating contact and letting him. If I have to initiate contact its business and in email.... I'm getting there.