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job #2900428 07/22/20 06:30 PM
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No worries!

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A quick question is terms of interactions. I often feel like im dealing with a child when it comes to him, came to have the kids today and said he has two broken toes. There is always something with him. I just said that must be really painful.
I didnt ask what happened etc? I just feel if i do in giving him so much attention, this is unchartered territory for me! Any advice appreciated.

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I have a friend who is like that. Woe is me all the time. Just ask him if the gorillas escaped from the zoo again.


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Originally Posted by Gigi123
A quick question is terms of interactions. I often feel like im dealing with a child when it comes to him, came to have the kids today and said he has two broken toes. There is always something with him. I just said that must be really painful.
I didnt ask what happened etc? I just feel if i do in giving him so much attention, this is unchartered territory for me! Any advice appreciated.


He has something broken, but I doubt it is his toes.

Remember, believe nothing he says. And only half of what he does. WSs are the flakiest creatures on the planet.


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My H did that often also.

“I haven’t been sleeping well.”
“I’m having stomach issues.”
“I went to look for xyz for the kids and it took me forever...blah blah blah.”

I usually would say something like “that sounds terrible.” And walk away before the pity party begins.


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Made me laugh out loud!

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Thats what i said, it must be very painful.

Usually i would ask what happened, oh no, are you ok and so on. But i didnt just because i didnt know how best to interact. But it looks like any extra questions or concern are not needed.

To be honest he yas had terrible luck recently, so it wouldnt surprise me if they were broken. He behaves like an infant

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Yea, I am advocate of humor because I think if you can be humorous about it, you can stay detached. You don't need to go into his world and be his loving wife right now, you don't need to spend the time to psychoanalyze him, and he is just trying to suck you into some goofy crapola.


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H said he is taking The boys to stay at his brothers overnight on saturday.

Happy for the kids, as they will get to see family, a little sad that i dont get to go.

But made plans to gal.

Whats even sadder that because of all the lies i had to txt MIL and check that its actually whats planned.

At least i can be at peace that they are safe and with people they love

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How does one Deal with the constant manipulation and lies?


I mean the ones that directly affect me, like on the day he is meant to have the boys, asking me to come home early from work because he has an appt, but actually going to meet the AP?

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