ExH has recently retired and I had to email him as I had not received my share of the pension check yet. (Especially important since, as you may recall, I am supporting S2 totally on my own without any help from ExH while S2 looks for a new job).
After sending the email twice in the last five days and not hearing from him, I had to send him a text message to look at his email. To his credit he did reply fairly promptly with the figures I asked for; I check his math and of course he got it wrong (in MY favor, actually). However some of the other figures need checking (years of service/years married during years of service don't look quite right to me) so I wrote back asking him for more info and telling him I would redo the calculation once I got the info. I suppose I could have lied by omission and just taken the extra $80 a month but really don't want to have him come back to me for the money at a later date.
His email was polite as was mine back - just wondering if I'll ever get to the point that seeing an email from him in my inbox doesn't give me a pit in my stomach? It's been 11 years! But I still dread opening his emails.
what is it, half the years of the relationship? I hoped that was not the case, but its seeming so for me also, though you are more than double my time post BD/D.
M 20+ T25+ S ~15.5 (BD) BD 4/6/15 D 12/23/16
"Someone I loved once gave me A box full of darkness. It took me years to understand, That this too, was a gift." ~ Mary Oliver
Well it was a 26 year relationship, so I have two years to go?
Actually the pit in my stomach is anticipating the negativity and attempted gaslighting that is usually in his emails. I don’t think that’s a function of time since divorce, since I’d never want him back in a million years. It’s more like not wanting to open the email is like not wanting to open that old Tupperware of leftovers you found in your fridge - you just don’t know what nasty thing you’ll find inside!
Thankfully his email was relatively well behaved this time.
I know that pit in the stomach all too well. Thankfully, right now we are incommunicado. Unfortunately at some point within the next few months that's going to change, as I cannot support the entire family on my own.
M 20+ T25+ S ~15.5 (BD) BD 4/6/15 D 12/23/16
"Someone I loved once gave me A box full of darkness. It took me years to understand, That this too, was a gift." ~ Mary Oliver
Yeah. It's sooo much easier when you have absolutely nothing to do with them. It's been so long since I've had any form of communication with my ex I don't know how I'd react. There's been times I could have used her assistance with parenting but even in the one time that I did reach out last year, there was no response.
On BD H52, W50 T27, M26 S21, D23 BD-9-Mar-16 D-15-Jan-18 Final-19-Apr-18 I am a storyteller. The story may do you no good. But a story is never for the listener. It is always for the one who tells
Spent the weekend sewing masks for healthcare workers. My office is still open although most patient visits have been turned into telemedicine visits. We don’t see sick patients anyway and I made masks for all my staff over a month ago. We did see two patients in the office today, one new, I think our small volume office is safer than the grocery store.
I have gotten calls from three patients in the last four days who all probably have CoVID. (Haven’t seen any of them in months so not an outbreak related to our office). This just shows how much worse it is than what’s being reported - we have less than 200 confirmed cases out of 3 million people but I’ve got three CoVID patients in four days??? It’s spreading like wildfire I’d guess.
sigh. do we know what the time is between exposure and getting sick? isn't it two weeks or something crazy like that? how is CMM and how are you and your sons?
M 20+ T25+ S ~15.5 (BD) BD 4/6/15 D 12/23/16
"Someone I loved once gave me A box full of darkness. It took me years to understand, That this too, was a gift." ~ Mary Oliver
Median incubation period is something like 3-5 days BUT up to 24 days is apparently possible. We are all well and being very careful with handwashing and the like.
Andrographis has been studied in Dengue fever (which is a +ssRNA type virus like coronaviruses) so I am taking that, hoping it will have some value as a preventive. Coffee may also help according to a study on a different, milder coronavirus from last year.
How is your mom doing? Still can't believe your stupid cousin putting her at risk.
