Totally agree with G. It is awkward regardless of who wanted the D and how it went down. Like G, I'm SO far over my XH that I just don't even care. Honestly, if he got hit by a bus right now, I would feel bad for the girls and for his mom and sister, but I wouldn't give a d@mn about him or his wife. (As a side note, just in case some obnoxious fat guy gets hit by a bus in Boston today, I'm right here in South Arkansas at work, minding my business, so as not to be accused of driving said bus that runs over said obnoxious fat guy.) I don't really want to talk to her or him and I certainly won't be striking up a friendship with her if/when they move back to Arkansas. Of course, I don't really want to talk to him either and since the girls are all adults, I don't have to. I will likely see them at things for the grandkids and I will be polite and civil because that is how adults act, but that is as far as I'm willing to go.
Me 52, H53 Bomb drop 9/29/2014 Divorce from XH final 12/17/2014 Marriage #2 12/31/2019 5 adult (step)daughters (3 from XH's first marriage, 2 from current H's previous relationships) 6 grandkids
I understand the first meeting being a little awkward but I still say if you are the jilted one, I can see why would might still be angry however as the one who left, the one that cheated, the one that walked away. It doesn't make sense why you would be angry. You got out, you got what you wanted. Any way enough of that.
Not much to report. I didn't have my girls this weekend so spent both night with the Doc. Friday night I took off of work and we went out to her ranch to shoot guns, have a few beverages and just chill. We came back early Saturday morning as my girls had soccer games. Saturday night we went to a fundraiser for a non-profit group that she is on the board of directors of. Yesterday I had to help a friend move for a while and then it was my normal domestic chores and getting the girls back around 1.
Two weeks until Spring Break so I am trying to decide what to do with the girls.
Oh and I just thought about something else. I think the Doc kind of $hit tested me on Saturday night. Maybe not in the moment on purpose but it stuck out to me. It probably would not have hit my radar screen if I had not dove in deep into R and all the self improvement. Further drives home the point of not rushing into things either.
At the event on Saturday night there was a silent auction so both of us had our own individual cards to bid on stuff with. I put my bid down on a weekend stay at a hotel out of town and my bid was like 3 times lower than what the actual value of it was. I was feeling really good about my chances to win it and the Doc comes over with like 5 minutes left and wants to put another bid on it with her sticker to jack up the price even more. I thought it was kind of stupid, as I had been watching the bidding on it for a while no one had tried to out bid me for an hour. So I told her "no", "don't do it" as I already have this one secured. I told her to essentially go bid on something else if she wanted to spend more money. So what does she do??? She turns around, walks away, gets about 5 feet from me, then turns back around walks in my direction and puts her bid down over mine. Doing exactly what I asked her not to do. I was kind of shocked, not that big of a deal in the action but she straight up ignored what I asked her not to do! Said to my self...."MFer this not going to happen on my watch". So I removed her bid from the sheet, gave her number back to her, and I told her I asked you not to do it but you did it any way. I told her to go bid on something else if she wanted to spend more money. She apologized and told me it was her control issues taking over.
I just shook my head.....at that point I could have cared less if I had won.
Afterwards she proceeded to tell me about 7 times how much she loved me. Bahaaaaa……….unreal!
Ok, so it irked you that she outbid you after you asked her not to. I get that. But then you went over and removed her bid and basically said "I told you not to". I would've lit your a$$ up in front of God and everybody for that. I d@mn sure wouldn't have apologized to you. LOL Probably why I was single for so long...……………………
Me 52, H53 Bomb drop 9/29/2014 Divorce from XH final 12/17/2014 Marriage #2 12/31/2019 5 adult (step)daughters (3 from XH's first marriage, 2 from current H's previous relationships) 6 grandkids
Sounds like she wasn't the only one who was testing someone. And I totally would've walked home or called a cab just to prove my point, but then again, I have been called stubborn, mule-headed and other assorted things more than once in my life. LOL
Me 52, H53 Bomb drop 9/29/2014 Divorce from XH final 12/17/2014 Marriage #2 12/31/2019 5 adult (step)daughters (3 from XH's first marriage, 2 from current H's previous relationships) 6 grandkids
Doc is very type A, very clinical. She tells me all the time that I see a side of her that 99.5% of the population doesn't see. She does not hesitate to go after what she wants. For example, she wants her neighbor at her ranch to build her a 16 x 20 deck overlooking the valley below so she can watch the sunset. He did not agree to do the work but she took it upon herself to give him an envelope full of cash to get started. He was p*ssed because he had not even agreed to do the work. She thought by giving him the cash that it would tempt in to get started.
The Doc goes after what she wants, she has no fear. Knowing her like I do is the reason I had to do something. I had no intentions of trying to test her. I asked her very nicely, made my intentions known. She didn't respect my wishes. I just couldn't let it go. I wasn't mean or angry.
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I didn't assume you did it in a rude or mean way because you just don't strike me as that kind of guy, but I agree with G. Sounds like money = power for the doc and she wanted to be in control. That could be a bit of a red flag moving down the road....in my opinion, but then again, that is all that is....MY opinion.
Me 52, H53 Bomb drop 9/29/2014 Divorce from XH final 12/17/2014 Marriage #2 12/31/2019 5 adult (step)daughters (3 from XH's first marriage, 2 from current H's previous relationships) 6 grandkids
And I totally would've walked home or called a cab just to prove my point, but then again, I have been called stubborn, mule-headed and other assorted things more than once in my life. LOL