Thanks D-money. Interestingly enough I texted her yesterday and she never responded and also didn't respond to my email this morning so who knows. I will be out of town this weekend due to a funeral I am attending and was helping coordinate some weekend sports logistics for the girls.
Oh well...………………..
I wonder if it was odd for her to see me with the doc's son. It doesn't matter.
Well I am back in Illinois for the weekend to attend a funeral. I have not been home in several years and I must say it is rather depressing. Just cold and drab....I dont miss it all, slightly depressing.
Not much else happening. The docs xh is still in icu so she has been struggling with that as she contemplates what to tell her son, the chance of him dying and her son growing up without his father. I just listen the best I can and I know it's a tough situation. The doc is tough as nails, hard working, tells it like it is and generally doesnt mess around. She is not emotional either so she struggles at times with the proper way to communicate with her son as she is all business.
Just cold and drab....I dont miss it all, slightly depressing.
Careful there buddy, I live only about an hour away and have all my life. Not that I don’t agree now and then - just not after 24 hours.
DonH Midwest Me 56 WAW-EXW 55 Met 11/95 / Married 5/00 Bomb 6/20/05 / She Filed on 6/2/06 / Divorced on 10/9/06 4 who'd qualify as GF since D & dated about 25 women since D
I moved away about 3 years after I graduated college. I couldn't move back after living in the South.
Went to a SB party last night with the doc and kids to one of her doc friend's house. Left at halftime as the game ended way too late to keep the kids up. Yesterday was the first time we have seen each other since Tuesday night and I won't see her again until Friday.
I feel myself wanting to spend more time with her.....this arrangement is starting to get a little frustrating and I am starting to feel it on the inside. A few months ago it didn't bother me a bit however now it is.
This past weekend was supposed to be our weekend together however since I had to go to a funeral and the Doc's XH is in ICU she has had her son every weekend for about the past month. There also seems to be no end in sight, they just put a pump of some sort in him as his kidneys are not getting any better. So on the weekends she goes over to the hospital, translates to his sisters, advocates for him to the medical staff and lets her son spend a couple of hours seeing his dad.
Recently I have started to think more about marriage with the Doc and as I said before it is starting to feel weird not seeing her and being around her. My girls are getting more comfortable, my oldest is really excited when she comes around, they gave each other big hugs yesterday however my youngest I don't think is 100% on board yet and has her moments. The Divorce was much harder on her.
Awwww, marriages all around on these boards! I’m just trying to get to a 3rd date! Hahaha! Remember, no rush. Let Your youngest get more comfortable. I understand wanting to see each other more often. All good things come in time.
Sounds like the doc’s ex is in some pretty serious heart failure and is on CRRT. Poor little boy must be scared for his dad. Maybe you did come into his life at the right time? The universe speaks.
Right, I am not rushing things. I have just recently started to feel more of the urge. My X and I have discussed possibly getting my youngest into therapy but she is just right on the cusp of being in 4th grade (we think growing out of it and into a big girl) and it's not impacting her school work, etc. In one breath she is very talkative with the Doc and then other times she is very quiet and to herself.
Last night she made a comment about how she wanted mommy and I know she has made comments to my XW's BF that her dad is big and strong so I know she is very protective and processing things. I think it is hard for her to see us with other people even though she was in K when all of this went down. Like I said, it's something she needs to get more comfortable with.
Yeah, he is in bad shape. Going on two weeks in ICU. I think he is maintaining but not making any improvements. They are also concerned about doing anything drastic because of how weak his heart is so I guess it is just a waiting game to see what his body will do. His dad had heart problems and he is the type to downplay and ignore symptoms so while the Doc kept on telling him he needs to go to see a cardiologist and/or ER it took him almost 2 months to do so from the time he started experiencing symptoms.
Well the XW texted me again and asked if I could send her some CS money early again. She said she was embarrassed to ask me. Said she didn't have enough money to buy groceries for next week. Looks like this is becoming a pattern.....
I just told her i was sorry, that i understood and asked when she wanted me to send some. Not sure what else I can do.........
Her birthday is in April, she has always been a bad spender. At one point during our marriage I had to take away her debt card and give her a cash allowance. She volunteered to do so, came to me and requested it.
I would be shocked if she asked me for more money outside of child support. If anything she will not be able to pay her half of their extra expenses we are to split. I know her and she is too stubborn to give in.
It's tough but I don't say anything other than I am sorry and understand.
