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Oh and don't follow the advice of Andy P (Sorry Andy P.....I still love you!). You sit back and let him make the moves. Let him come to you.

He will reach out if he wants to see you again and when/if he does you let him make the date. You follow his lead.


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Originally Posted by TBSakaJ9
Oh and don't follow the advice of Andy P (Sorry Andy P.....I still love you!). You sit back and let him make the moves. Let him come to you.

He will reach out if he wants to see you again and when/if he does you let him make the date. You follow his lead.


totally agree

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Andy P that only works if you’re a Canadian stripper.

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I’m cracking up over here.

When he said he had a really nice time, I said “so did I, next time I won’t have a curfew” and that’s it. Now it’s all on him.

All arrows pointed to him wanting to see me again, and the ball is in his court.

I’m done doing the pursing. I want to be pursued. And if he likes me well enough, he will.

And he is a young active 51. Needs the extra large text on his phone, but otherwise, age is just a number, although I do know there is an Allure of a younger woman. And I look younger than my actual age, which he actually mentioned.

So now I just go about my business and see what happens

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Heck yeah there is allure, even though he might be a young 51 he is still 51 and he knows that.

He could be LH Jr. but he is still knows it. Which is why LH likes to date 20 somethings smile

It's an ego boost for sure and a topic of conversation with his buddies.

You just need to make sure that it's not all about that. A notch on a bed post and stories he can tell his buddies.

If you get my drift...…………………..


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That's not really much of an age difference at this point and the fact that he's at a similar life stage and (hopefully) financially established are big pluses for you. (What does he do for a living btw?)

Age differences do matter as you get older but it's not the most important thing. My sister's husband was 14 years older and he just died at 69, leaving her a widow at 56 - but his death from staph sepsis of unknown origin was a random accident. The bigger threat to their long-term life together was always his intermittent alcoholism and his not always being proactive about his heath (although NONE of this had to do with his death from sepsis). If this guy is fit and active he likely is also attending to his health in other ways as well so the age difference shouldn't be a negative.

In fact, being younger you get to stay the "hottie" longer. I was 4 years older than my ex and although I think I was aging well, as he began to panic about his OWN aging, he apparently wanted to be with someone much younger so that he could pretend he wasn't aging.

Just try to make sure his account of the divorce is factual - we all know how many WASs paint their divorces as "amicable" when really they just abandoned their spouses without trying to do the work.

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Yeah, I’ve dated 12 years older, 15 years older and I actually prefer it. I’ve been ahead of my tears for so long it works out. Overtime I’m sure I’ll get to be able to poke into the really story of his divorce.

I haven’t heard from him today, However I don’t hear from
Him throughout the day because he’s a teacher. So I’ll just sitting right going about my business. All signs pointed to another date so we will see

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I did not text the doc the night after our date but did text her the following day. When I reached out she did not show her cards until I showed mine.

She made me make the first move.


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I think this guy is me. I use giant text too. And I use readers lol!

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Originally Posted by LH19
I use giant text too.

The size of the text doesn't matter, it's the size of the pencil that's important.

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