L...10-4 will do. I met a buddy out before Christmas for some drinks. We usually get together once a quarter for Happy Hour. Need to coordinate another meeting.
Yeah, that's what my thought process is. The girls know that my house is their home, it's the only one they can remember outside of my XW's place but I don't think they view that the same. They can't go outside and play and have no friends in the area she lives in. At my house there is all the kids they grew up with and can go outside to play, ride their bikes to the park, etc. So I don't mind it one bit and if I get to see her more often then just a bonus for me.
Assuming things continue on with Dr. as they are now I will have some things to navigate in the future as we would be moving from our home and either into the Dr's house or buying a new one together. That would mean they would go to a different middle school even though it is in the same town and my youngest would have to change as well unless we were able to petition the school district to allow them to continue going even though I moved.
Funny thing is that all of this hinges on me as my XW moved to a different town, still in the same school district but the schools are vastly different.
Just venting a bit and a reminder that not all is rosey with our x spouses. The xw just called me and asked if I could send her some CS money early as she only had 50 bucks or so to her name. She also said her credit cards are maxed and she hasn't felt this way since college.
I thought to myself wtf I know what you got in our divorce. Anyway, I can't send my girls to her with no money and not being able to buy groceries so I sent her some money early. She said she overspent on Christmas.
I feel bad for her and obviously she let me inside the curtain but I mean it's just crazy and an unfortunate situation.
I told her I couldn't always send anything early I really cant but I also dont want to set the expectation that I can either. I guess she is struggling more than I might realize.
Yep. That's what happens when you make decisions based on emotions. You don't think things through. She's going to be knocking on your door for more then money soon lol.
Annnnnd that probably explains the timing of the arm stroking.
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Annnnnd that probably explains the timing of the arm stroking.
For that kind of cash he should have at least gotten a BJ
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Yeah, she has no interest in me outside of whatever makes her life easier. That's fine, I dont want anything from her either other than to be a good co-parent. Either was she is going to get the money so it doesnt really bother me other than whatever pertains to my daughters needs. There is a part of me that thinks "this is who my kids spent half their time with????".
Anyways..it is what it is and I did what I thought was right.
I’m going to play devils advocate here. I know this is what she wanted, divorce. I know she she asked for this.
But I could empathize with her. It’s really hard when you don’t make a certain a salary. When you just want to give your kids everything you can so they don’t feel it and you make make a bad decision like overspend on Christmas. It really really stinks.
And come on, yes, this is who your daughters spend half of their time with. And you know she is a good mom too. You’ve said it many times . She probably really did overspend in Christmas not wanting to make it feel like any less of a Christmas. And she didn’t ask for you to give her money, just to give her money early. I’m going to imagine to ask you and tell you why, probably really killed her.
I know G......I guess I still have a little anger in me that comes out once in a while. Truthfully she is on her own, her parents/siblings live out in CA and provide her with no support. My job brought us here so back then it was a non-issue so wants to get a Divorce now her she is. Not sure where her BF is in this picture but I guess he is not an option although they have been together for over 2 years.
My dad helps me with buying me some furniture and stuff. Thankfully. I’m grateful for that. But OMG it’s hard.
I’m imagining she didn’t ask her boyfriend because she isn’t asking for extra money, just her money, a little bit early. Nothing extra.
I understand the anger. It’s was her choice. But she’s feeling the repercussions of her decisions for sure. The universe is taking care of it. And it seems like she making an effort to make sure her kids don’t feel the repercussions of her decisions which has gotten her into this pickle.
