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Hahaha!!! Thanks guys.....yeah its really nice. Obviously only been a year but definitely noticeable differences between her and the xw. Essentially the dr makes it easy for me to be a man, she celebrates it. The xw challenged me on everything and eventually I just shut down. Maybe that means the xw and I where just not compatible who knows. She could be totally different with her bf than she was with me which definitely could be the case.


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Happy New Year everyone!! The Dr. and I went out last night, got a hotel room and bar hopped around town last night. We had way too much too much to drink and passed out around 11:30. We woke up this morning, had some really cheap Waffle House breakfast which did wonders for my hangover. I had never had WF but the Dr had it in med school so she wanted to go.

Last night at dinner the Dr. told me she was fully committed to me and we got on the subject of my mom who has Parkinson's. The Dr. told me that she would be fully there for me and how I needed to get my mom to where we live ASAP because over the next 10 years or so her quality of life is going to diminish and since I am her only child the responsibility will fall on me. I have always known this but just have kind of put it out of my mind. Needless to say the Dr. has thought about all of this and was telling me how she would support me, my girls, my mom and that we would do what is necessary to ensure she is happy.

I was like a deer in headlights with this conversation. I didn't know what to say as I have never experienced this type of love and support from a woman and is nothing like I would have received from my XW. For the most part I just sat and listened, I also broke down a couple of times with some tears as I thought about my mom, her situation and also just how the Dr. is so giving, caring, sweet, loving and compassionate. It is so very different for me, to have someone love me and care for me in ways that my XW never did or could.

Her being around me and just my presence is enough for her. I don't do anything really, go out of my way, make these big gestures, etc. she just totally loves me for who I am. I don't push anything, get bogged down in heavy conversations, etc.

We both have been kid free since Friday and I have been with her every day and night in some capacity. I have so many emotions swirling in my head that it is very hard to process them all. I guess I am starting to feel some pressure because they conversations are becoming more real.


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All sounds like really good stuff! Relax and enjoy the journey.

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It all sounds pretty amazing. And just because things are great doesn’t mean there is pressure to do anything . Just enjoy being in the place where everything is great.

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Ok, will do. Makes sense.


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Happy New Year J9. Glad to read what I read. You make me tear a little, remember those old misty times? it´s good to see how far they are now.

My best wishes for all of you!

Keep shining

(((J9)))


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Thanks Nef....I really feel like I am shining!

Not much to report, just finished essentially spending the entire week with the Dr. The more time I spend with her the more comfortable I get. Nothing new to report, it is coming up on a year of dating on 1/16 and we have already planned on going back to the restaurant where we first met on that evening.

The XW has really become an after thought although she does do some interesting things from time to time. She texted me the other day and asked me if she I had a credit card to a particular store. I didn't but if I did I know she was going to ask to use it and pay me back. Like WTF????? Then today when she was dropping off the girls she came into the house, at one point came up and started stoking my arm and hung around making conversation. It was really weird. I have a picture of me and the doc on my fridge and wonder if she noticed that. That ship has sailed but anyway just really weird. She is still dating the same dude so i mean geez.

Anyway, basketball for my youngest starts back up this week and indoor soccer for my oldest starts on Saturday as well. My youngest decided to start playing soccer again which is really cool because she is talented, I think she just got burned out before.


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So when you say stoking your arm do you mean baby arm? Bahaaaaa

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LOL....well i had just got back from the gym and had a tank top on so I was leaning back on the counter and she came up and grabbed my tricep....so transparent smile


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I can't imagine doing that to my exh.. Just saying..


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"Someone I loved once gave me
A box full of darkness.
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That this too, was a gift."
~ Mary Oliver
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