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ozman #2872580 11/18/19 11:50 PM
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Thanks guys. Thank very much for all the posts. It means a lot. I can honestly tell you I don’t know what I want. But I can say that I am happy. Which is awesome. My happiness is not tied to her.

I do miss, however, human touch. A hug, a pat on the shoulder, things like that.

I’m going to start shopping for my own place. And we need to start deciding who gets what. Do I bring this up to her? Or no


Side note. Sweet as pie to me yesterday. I woke up late at night. She had stayed up late and laundered and hung up my clothes for the whole week. Y thought it was a nice gesture

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Originally Posted by ozman
I do miss, however, human touch. A hug, a pat on the shoulder, things like that.
Go get a 2 hour massage.

Go get a pedicure.

Go get a manicure.

go get a facial.


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Originally Posted by ozman
Thanks guys. Thank very much for all the posts. It means a lot. I can honestly tell you I don’t know what I want.


Google this:
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Originally Posted by ozman
But I can say that I am happy. Which is awesome. My happiness is not tied to her.
What is your happiness tied to? Others here are struggling, they are reading your thread, and may be able to gain some insight from you.


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Originally Posted by Ready2Change
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I do miss, however, human touch. A hug, a pat on the shoulder, things like that.
Go get a 2 hour massage.

Go get a pedicure.

Go get a manicure.

go get a facial.


Get a dog. They love affection and giving it. my 100 pound dog thinks he is a lapdog.


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Originally Posted by Ready2Change
Originally Posted by ozman
But I can say that I am happy. Which is awesome. My happiness is not tied to her.
What is your happiness tied to? Others here are struggling, they are reading your thread, and may be able to gain some insight from you.



my happiness is not tied to anything. I wake up in the morning and DECIDE to be happy. If I’m really not feelin it I’ll put on some music that makes me feel up beat. It comes from inside happiness.

There is some cheesy quote that i really took to heart a while back. “Happiness is the journey, not the destination”.

I think finding happiness is looking inward and seeing yourself as a complete person who doesn’t need anybody to survive.


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There is no human will every love me as much as my dog does. I’m his world. I think he might even love me more than my own flesh and blood child, lol

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Dogs love unconditionally. As in they will do whatever it takes to please


So W is in a terrible mood tonight. Being very short and snippy. Very angry

Check out this phone convo. It’s funny to me

Me hello?
Her hey what do you want to do for dinner
Me (offer a few suggestions)
Her (angrily) I don’t want to do this over the phone.

HAHAHAHA. I don’t mean to laugh. But it’s what she called me for

It is awesome beyond words to not be affected by her moods. I’m just happy.

It didn’t hurt in the slightest.

I’m only talking about it because I never thought I would be here


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Originally Posted by ozman
Dogs love unconditionally. As in they will do whatever it takes to please


So W is in a terrible mood tonight. Being very short and snippy. Very angry

Check out this phone convo. It’s funny to me

Me hello?
Her hey what do you want to do for dinner
Me (offer a few suggestions)
Her (angrily) I don’t want to do this over the phone.

HAHAHAHA. I don’t mean to laugh. But it’s what she called me for

It is awesome beyond words to not be affected by her moods. I’m just happy.

It didn’t hurt in the slightest.

I’m only talking about it because I never thought I would be here


Next time forget suggestions. Just tell her, I think we should have "X". Be decisive. Lead. Think about this for next time do you'll have a ready answer. "Let's get Chinese." Have an answer, not suggestions.


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Originally Posted by Steve85
Just tell her, I think we should have "X". Be decisive. Lead. Think about this for next time do you'll have a ready answer. "Let's get Chinese." Have an answer, not suggestions.
I completely agree. She NEEDS you to make a decision.

If she does not like your choice, it is up to her to offer her idea. Basic negotiation.


You:"Chinese"
Her,"I want pizza"
You"Burgers
Her:"Chicken"
You "Chicken works for me" or "Bar B Q"


Most likely she will go with your first choice.


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