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Thornton #2867257 10/04/19 02:03 AM
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Thornton. I don't know if this might help. Here are some videos that spoke to me regarding relationships, keeping a balance, noticing detrimental behaviors and thought patterns, healing and living yourself, etc. I was having a extremely bleak hard day today too, about the future. This guys videos are great. I highly recommend him. He has a lot of valuable life lessons. https://youtu.be/wiOpLsQFwCU Name is Jay Shetty. This guy is an amazing life and relationship coach. Totally blows Tony Robbins away! IMHO

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I feel for you. Those down days $uck. You will get through it. You're not alone. Get up and go do something. Take a walk. Go to the gym. Get lunch with a friend. Hang in there, buddy!


M:23 T:26
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W moved out 4/28/17
Thornton #2867291 10/04/19 02:10 PM
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Thanks IHCLACS and Jim, I appreciate the support.

I'm feeling stronger today after my pity party last night.

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Just onward and upward T!

You are an old DB wolf. Face reality and keep GAL.

Give time the time. Find calm and patience. Know yourself a little better. Keep moving forward.

(((T)))


WW H(me): 53
W: 48
T: 27 M: 22
S: 18
Piecing since 03/2016
Saw the light in the storm
Thornton #2867397 10/05/19 12:06 PM
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Originally Posted by Thornton
I'm feeling stronger today after my pity party last night.


It's an emotional roller coaster, and you're going to have ups and downs. Glad you're feeling better today


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My observation has been that each piece of pain temporarily disables us, we reflect on it, we try to change our mindset on it to become unstuck, get us out of our emotions and into action to change the circumstance that is influcting us in the first place, then we grow stronger. Like a muscle healing from over work.

Thornton #2867442 10/06/19 01:08 AM
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First temp check since I went NC. W texted me to see if I had thrown away a scarf I had bought her. Then she followed it up with “never mind, that that was a shitty thing to ask”. I didn’t respond.

I’m adjusting to life without W and will eventually get to the point I’m indifferent. One day at a time..

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Thornton, you did well with the temp check.

How are you doing with GAL?


H 49 , W 47
T 23, M 17
S11, S5
BD: 7/18
IHS: 7/18 - 3/19
Physically Separated: 3/19-4/19
Piecing: 4/19 - Current

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Thornton #2867516 10/07/19 01:43 PM
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What a roller coaster this is. One day I feel pretty good, detached, and optimistic. The next day I'm stuck in my thoughts wondering how this happened all over again what I could have done differently to have kept my family together.

And a part of me wonders why I miss someone who clearly does not have the same feelings for me as I do for her.

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Just remember that's normal. Ups and downs come and g. Work your way out of the downs and understand they always pass!


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W 29
BD 3/12/18
Divorce Busted Spring 19

It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.
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