Remember me?

[Thornton]

Thanks LH. I don’t think there’s anything she can do. I’m tired of being the fool.

[Thornton]

Day 1 with W out of the house and I'm hanging in there. I think it's time for me to hop off this crazy train.

I had my mom hang out at the house while W and her mom and friends grabbed her things. When I came back home, my mom told me that W's mom said she would "pray for Thornton, he has issues". My mom responded "the last time I checked, it takes two to make or break a relationship". I was glad that my mom defended me because this is W's pattern. She goes around telling anyone who will listen how awful I am. She's done this every single time she's left. But then she will want to come back to me (after I go NC) and cries about how she has had epiphanies while we are apart that she has issues and has been working on them etc.

I'm sick and tired of being labeled a monster and I will not fall for it again. My family is already warning me that I better not take her back, because she will come knocking when her life doesn't magically improve as a result of me being out of the picture.

I'm taking my life back.

[neffer]

Be strong there T. You know what you have to do, just do it! ;-)

(((T)))

[44tries2]

You deserve better than the crazy train. I know how it feels to be blamed for someone else's unhappiness. Know that it isn't you. You aren't a monster. Her life will not magically improve without you; but I have a hunch yours might improve without her Hang in there T, you're doing great. Day 1 is the hardest.

[Thornton]

Quick update. I came home from work yesterday and W, D12, and W's mother were collecting the last of her things. I was cordial and said hello to everyone, then hugged D12 and told her I loved her. Then they all headed out.

This morning on my drive into work I received a text from W's mother. It was a meme about only being able to take things stored in your heart when we pass on. I can't tell if this is a passive aggressive barb (which W's mom is totally capable of) or a nice gesture. I decided not to respond.

I guess that's a wrap!

[IronWill]

T -

Sorry you are having to go through this again, man. It definitely [censored], but it also definitely is not because of you.

Try to remember that - they are going through this, not you. You are giving W what she thinks will make her happy, and in that way you are doing the best possible thing you can given the options you have available to you right now - letting her go.

Hope you have some GAL planned to relax and get your mind off this for a little while.

Take care man

[Jim1234]

Thornton, I'm sorry to hear things have come to this. Whether you allow you W back into your life is entirely up to you. You're going to be fine no matter what, but please please continue to reach out to D12 and make sure she knows you are there for her. A typical teen will act cool, but they will know the truth deep down and appreciate it.

[Thornton]

Thanks for the posts, IronWill and Jim.

I will certainly keep in contact with D12. I've raised her as my own since she was 3 years old and I can't fathom simply not talking to her anymore.

I suspect that once I truly let go of W and perhaps start dating again, that she will keep D12 from me as punishment. I guess I'll cross that bridge when I get there.

[Jim1234]

W may do just that. Before that happens, I'd suggest you sit down with D12 and let her know that you will always be there for her. You can't really say "if W cuts me off, I"ll still be there if you need me", but you can say something to that effect.

[Thornton]

I was feeling pretty decent the past few days as I’ve been NC with W since she left. This evening it’s caught up with me and I’m struggling. I know time heals and there’s no shortcuts, but this just [censored].