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Working on it

..... and my daughter of course. Today I made an appointment finally to address this excruciating pain in my hip. I made my daughter’s pediatrician appt. I got a $600 refund for being wrongfully charged monthly for a gym membership I cancelled a year ago. It’s about me now.

Hawho, thank you. I have always though you were this incredible catch and I always hated seeing you being mistreated. I should also take some of my own advice sometimes. I know I’m the long run I would have been doing all the heavy lifting like I did with my ex. One person simply cannot carry an R. I wish he didn’t turn out to be this way and he was more of what he represented the first 6 months.

I am sooooo close to texting M asking him how his son’s first day at kindergarten was. Please, someone stop me! I’m sad I won’t get the pictures or hear him in his emphatic descriptions tell me all about.

Ugh.

Otherwise, D11 went off to 7th grade today. She growing up. Way too fast

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Don't waste your time...………………………………………………………….

Come on now G.


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I know, I know. It’s an urge I am going to resist.

I’ve been pretty awesome so far. I’ve only reached out with the house fire. Nothing else. Sure, I miss the child, truly wonder how his first day was, but if he wanted me to know, I’m sure he would let me know.

Back down to earth

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When you get the urge to text M, post here, Facebook message someone, type the text out but send it to yourself instead of him, whatever. Do NOT text M. I get you love and miss his son, but sadly, he’s part of your past. (((G))) You got this!!!!!!


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I hear you Ginger. GS4 should have been starting school this week too. When we get involved with someone it's not just that person. We get involved in the whole "ecosystem" around them.

There have been so many things that I have "needed" to talk to B about over the past month. The comfortable habits of just knowing that someone is there and that they care are hard to break. I managed to limit myself to just the one pre planned Happy Birthday.

Our breakups were different but also similar. They weren't our choice but we both know in our heads and our hearts that we did have in many ways the right choice thrust upon us. Disentangling ourselves from the life and narratives we created is going to take time.

You can do it. I can do it. But there will be for some time those tugs.


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It is hard enough letting go of the one you loved and the ones you grew to love around them. It stinks, but I’m certainly going to stay strong.

It’s my past, not my present and won’t be my future so I have just let go.

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as kml says, 'let go or be dragged'


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"Someone I loved once gave me
A box full of darkness.
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That this too, was a gift."
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D’s pep rally got canceled last minute tonight, and she is really super PO’d it has also been rescheduled for her birthday next Friday when me and her dad go out. Which we can still do afterwards.

So, it turns out I need a hobby. I can’t sit still and alone in my own home. My head gets the best of me. I get really sad and lonely unless I’m busy. So I need an inexpensive hobby. Trying to find one for myself. Else I’ll lose my mind.
I sure do miss our weekend dates. It was nice having someone to eat with, go out with, or just watch TV with. Our last date we ordered in sushi, drank some beers and watched game shows. It was awesome. See, there goes my mind again.

I’m trying to get D11 to do something with me tonight, but my daughter has some expensive tastes.

I just need to keep myself busy as to not do anything stupid . Or let my mind go to places that it shouldn’t.

My coworker helped me search for a second job today. I guess that will help when I finally land one. Being alone with no money and nothing to do kind of stinks.

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Library card?


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I read. I love reading . But I think I need a little more engagement. bit yup, I’m going to get myself a new book.

So, his brother finally unfollowed me on IG. It made me really sad for some reason. I’m hating M again and want to tell him off.

But I won’t. In the past. Letting go

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