AS. 2x4 taken. Sarcasm was not included just humor. This is what I wrote: I may have been a little distracted lately but when did we remarry?
You seriously don't see the sarcasm in that? "When did we remarry?" That is exactly what sarcasm is!
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No passive/aggressive intended. And NG means what exactly?
NG = "nice guy" or "nice guy syndrome" as described in the book No More Mister Nice Guy. Part of NGS is making passive/aggressive comments without thinking they are passive/aggressive. It is being passive/aggressive without intending it or realizing it.
Point taken. Maybe I'm too sarcastic to even notice it. I have the NG book. It's been a slow read since it's in a different language and some things don't open up as they probably would if it was in my language. So far I see myself in that book.
But most excellent points AS. I thank you. I need to start working on these and get my s*** together.
Me:39 W:36 S:12 D:9 T:14 M:11 Separation:sep. 1 2017 D filed oct. 2017 D finalized july 2018 OM confirmed feb 2018 D finalized July 2018
The fact is this. You have to be in pain before you can learn.
Now I'm again the guilty one for everything. Just wondering if what AS pointed out triggered everything. Her mind seems to flip every two weeks. Last weekend of July she texted how I never even tried to get her back. Two weeks forward she texted how she now sees how much I tried to get her back. Now I'm guilty for everything again. So the rollecoaster is still going on strong.
Me:39 W:36 S:12 D:9 T:14 M:11 Separation:sep. 1 2017 D filed oct. 2017 D finalized july 2018 OM confirmed feb 2018 D finalized July 2018
The fact is this. You have to be in pain before you can learn.
I made a decision today. I'm done. I can't take this turbulence anymore. The more she is in my life the worse I feel. And that can not be a good sign. Now I'm off to rebuilding.
Me:39 W:36 S:12 D:9 T:14 M:11 Separation:sep. 1 2017 D filed oct. 2017 D finalized july 2018 OM confirmed feb 2018 D finalized July 2018
The fact is this. You have to be in pain before you can learn.
Eyes are on the road. The road of rebuilding and a better life.
I need to rebuild myself to make it. I see it that I'm still emotionally tangled totally. I need to go through the D in every way. I need to get to a peaceful place mentally to carry on. I need to get to a place where none of her actions don't effect me.
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Me:39 W:36 S:12 D:9 T:14 M:11 Separation:sep. 1 2017 D filed oct. 2017 D finalized july 2018 OM confirmed feb 2018 D finalized July 2018
The fact is this. You have to be in pain before you can learn.
This explains everything. When XW texted she still loved me etc. She had made a decision to breka up with the new man. She had figured that he is no good for her. And now there has been the hostile, accusing behaviour towards me. Well she took the man back. So there we have it.
Me:39 W:36 S:12 D:9 T:14 M:11 Separation:sep. 1 2017 D filed oct. 2017 D finalized july 2018 OM confirmed feb 2018 D finalized July 2018
The fact is this. You have to be in pain before you can learn.
