ANy advice to give for someone married to someone who is so preoccupied with his past that he can't live in the present?
I realize the conditions my H grew up with haunt him. We've been married 19 years -- he threatened divorce two years ago, but couldn't/didn't follow through due to lack of funds. Anyway, he's back to talking about all that -- just like he used to. He's in therapy now -- so this may be helping him.
Can he ever focus on the present? It seems he doesn't see me or the kids .. just sees his mother and brothers. He deemed his mother incompetent and his brothers neglected.
How can I change the pattern? I usually listen and say how sad and is there anything we can do now?