GM everyone. Had a good weekend. Friday night went out with the Dr. and spent the night at her place. Saturday my oldest had two soccer games and then Saturday night the Dr. and her son came over for pizza. Yesterday my oldest had another soccer game and then we met the Dr. and her son at the local water park for a few hours. Tonight the Dr. has a recognition event at a local restaurant for her practice and I am going with her as arm candy. She also told me on Friday she was madly in love. I love her as well but what I like about her the most is that I can talk to her about anything, she is a good friend also.
After tonight I won't see her again until Friday. Friday night we will probably go out to eat with my girls as our weekends are now off sync and Saturday night is the concert we are going to and the girls are spending the night at some friends. I bought the tickets and she got us a hotel room downtown.
No major issues to report, things are still going very well however I do think her son is kind of annoying. It is clear that he is not used to sharing his mom with anyone, has to be the center of attention, gets his feelings hurt very easily, and all is fun and happy until he doesn't get his way. In addition he is manipulative. I could give you examples of each but will spare you all the long paragraphs but needless to say I am not used to that type of kid. I am also not sure how to handle so I just try to stay out of it the best I can. The more I interact with him though, the more he expects out of me so at times it's hard to avoid but I just try to not give them reaction or interaction he is looking for.
He is her only kid, her mom's only grandson, and is the only nephew her sister has and she is not married so there is no other child in the immediate family so they all think he is just the greatest thing in the world. Obviously I see things a little differently since I have a couple of kids. So I guess I get it but it's an adjustment for me...………..
I'm guessing the whole thing with the son will be an adjustment for the dr and the son as well. If things do go to a more permanent (for lack of a better word) level with you and the dr, it might do his son some good to be in a house with other kids and another strong, stable influence who doesn't think he is the be all, end all (not that you don't like the kid, mind you, but you aren't and won't likely be as enamored of him as his mother and grandmother are and that is a good thing).
Me 52, H53 Bomb drop 9/29/2014 Divorce from XH final 12/17/2014 Marriage #2 12/31/2019 5 adult (step)daughters (3 from XH's first marriage, 2 from current H's previous relationships) 6 grandkids
He is the type of kid that wants to pull your hat off your head and will butter you up so you think he is being nice and then he just grabs it. He also had this little soft squishy ball at the pool that my daughters and I where throwing back and forth. I had him join in with us and as soon as we threw it to him he didn't say and word and just swam off with it. Maybe he wanted a reaction but I just told my daughters to let him go. So its crap like that. Saturday night I made pizza for the kids as the dr told me he liked cheese. When she told him I made it he said he disnt want any and then started talking about how much he liked some other types of pizza. I found it odd like it was a competition or he was trying to prove a point or be difficult. But when he wants me to do something then I must do it immediately.
Sounds like the type of kid that will get picked on at school or on the playground. Then the boys picking on him will be called bullies. I'm not at all excusing or condoning bullying but other kids won't put up with his behavior for long - I'll bet when you were young J9 you would not have and that's part of what you are feeling.
DonH Midwest Me 56 WAW-EXW 55 Met 11/95 / Married 5/00 Bomb 6/20/05 / She Filed on 6/2/06 / Divorced on 10/9/06 4 who'd qualify as GF since D & dated about 25 women since D
spot on DH......yday he came running up to the dr. crying, told her he got bullied and some kid pushed him down the slide. Come to find out he was holding up the line because he didn't want to go down the slide until the big bucket of water dumped. Kids didn't want to wait for him so they made him go down. He spun it as he was getting bullied however the kids didn't want to wait and my 10 yr old kept telling him to just go down the slide.
I would not have put up with that crap. Unfortunately that kid is going to get some rough lessons. I am just trying to not be the teacher...….it's hard though.
What does the dr. Do when he acts like this? Ignore it? Laugh it off?
I know it made me a little crazy sometimes the way M parented. Not because of the kid though. The kid was great. M was annoying, lol. So all over the kid he didn’t let him breath.
One day your girls might put him in his place. Maybe that will be a good thing
When he came to her crying about being bullied she got out of the water with him, went to our table and had him drink some water and eat a snack. When he kept on knocking her hat off her head she eventually got stern with him and told him knock it off. They just dont have a reference point of what other kids do because he doesn't interact with any kids outside of school. He has never been over to another kids house, had a sleep over, etc. Its either camp or school. I think that is part of it and the dr treats him like a prodigy, teaching him bible verses, spanish, oh and he is in cub scouts.......I hated cub scouts...lol Nothing against it all but that's just the environment she has him in.
She also told me on Friday she was madly in love. I love her as well but what I like about her the most is that I can talk to her about anything, she is a good friend also.