Thanks AS. I think it hit so hard b/c this hasn't happened before. But I think you are right about me not being 100% detached yet but I'm getting there.
Last edited by petri; 07/29/1906:20 PM.
Me:39 W:36 S:12 D:9 T:14 M:11 Separation:sep. 1 2017 D filed oct. 2017 D finalized july 2018 OM confirmed feb 2018 D finalized July 2018
The fact is this. You have to be in pain before you can learn.
I had my IC today. We talked about love languages and how it is a life's tragedy that two people love each other and still don't feel loved. Makes you wonder how many Ds would be prevented if we had only one love language?
Me:39 W:36 S:12 D:9 T:14 M:11 Separation:sep. 1 2017 D filed oct. 2017 D finalized july 2018 OM confirmed feb 2018 D finalized July 2018
The fact is this. You have to be in pain before you can learn.
Last night I received a message from XW. She was asking if I would inject a vaccine to her and since I'm a nurse a can do that. But do I give her a plain no answer or a bit longer one. I don't want to do any favours for her. I think that's something friends do to each other and I don't consider her as my friend anymore. Any thoughts?
Me:39 W:36 S:12 D:9 T:14 M:11 Separation:sep. 1 2017 D filed oct. 2017 D finalized july 2018 OM confirmed feb 2018 D finalized July 2018
The fact is this. You have to be in pain before you can learn.
Last night I received a message from XW. She was asking if I would inject a vaccine to her and since I'm a nurse a can do that. But do I give her a plain no answer or a bit longer one. I don't want to do any favours for her. I think that's something friends do to each other and I don't consider her as my friend anymore. Any thoughts?
It's your choice, if you don't feel comfortable with it then tell her that. I still do a lot for my XW and she does a lot for me as well, so in my case I wouldn't think twice about helping her with an injection.
Here's what I replied after she texted "you're not doing it?" just now. "No. It's not really my job anymore. The thought of it doesn't feel ok right now."
Me:39 W:36 S:12 D:9 T:14 M:11 Separation:sep. 1 2017 D filed oct. 2017 D finalized july 2018 OM confirmed feb 2018 D finalized July 2018
The fact is this. You have to be in pain before you can learn.
AS pointed out a couple of replies back that I'm not detached 100%. Doing things for her would just make that harder. So that's also a reason why I responded the way I did.
Me:39 W:36 S:12 D:9 T:14 M:11 Separation:sep. 1 2017 D filed oct. 2017 D finalized july 2018 OM confirmed feb 2018 D finalized July 2018
The fact is this. You have to be in pain before you can learn.
AS pointed out a couple of replies back that I'm not detached 100%. Doing things for her would just make that harder. So that's also a reason why I responded the way I did.
And that's perfectly fine, you're not married to her anymore, if you choose not to help her with that then there is nothing wrong with that.
Originally Posted by Steve85
petri....I think you missed an opportunity. I think a lot of LBSs would jump at a chance to jab their X with a needle!
Last night XW texted me. She apologized and said I was right about her all along. She said that she divorced me out of a identity crisis and she now sees it. She said that she understands that people divorce if there is no more love but to walkaway from the person you love the most is killing her. She said that she has been thinking about things since her dad had a heartattack. And she was thinking if something happened to me and she couldn't take it. And if she was dying the only person she would want there would be me. She also told me that she has been having suicidal thoughts. And that she has been letting people do things to her that she didn't deserve.
I'm not quite sure what to make of this. She hasn't admitted anything to be at all her "fault". I really don't know how to play this. I'm not sure I know what I want.
Me:39 W:36 S:12 D:9 T:14 M:11 Separation:sep. 1 2017 D filed oct. 2017 D finalized july 2018 OM confirmed feb 2018 D finalized July 2018
The fact is this. You have to be in pain before you can learn.
