Man. This is Arrrggghhh. I hate this middle school “I wonder if she likes me” bull $hit. It really is like being in middle school (my Stab at something resembling humor)
There is a part of me that wants to say
“Listen here woman, I love you and I’m sorry for all the times I effed up and I own them. I’m a changed man and Im never going back to that old guy again. So you need to make up your mind. You either want me or you don’t. If you do then let’s get on with it. If you don’t then GTFO”
Sorry I just needed to get that off my chest
Tell me again. Patience patience patience? Right?
How will things improve from where they are?
Last night, I’m shaving, no shirt on, kinda showing off the hint of some abs ( I’ve lost 20 lbs). And I can see her in the mirror CHECKING ME OUT!! Like come on this is FRUSTRATING!!
She’s back there crackin jokes makin me laugh and it’s almost like there is some flirting going on.
I went shopping and bought new clothes. I went to the gym. I listen to W and validated her feelings. I did my share of help around the house. I told W I wanted alone time with S. I spent time with S . I read NMMNG and learned a lot. I took notes. I went to the book store and browsed the self help area. I bought two new books. I made the cashier laugh......
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
“Listen here woman, I love you and I’m sorry for all the times I effed up and I own them. I’m a changed man and Im never going back to that old guy again. So you need to make up your mind. You either want me or you don’t. If you do then let’s get on with it. If you don’t then GTFO”
LBS always want to talk too much. Shut up and SHOW her with your actions.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
“Listen here woman, I love you and I’m sorry for all the times I effed up and I own them. I’m a changed man and Im never going back to that old guy again. So you need to make up your mind. You either want me or you don’t. If you do then let’s get on with it. If you don’t then GTFO”
This is where patience comes in. WORDS are meaningless. SHOW her this. Mainly the part about being a changed man.
Your sitch is still brand news. A month is a drop in the ocean. PATIENCE. Let her have time to see your changes so she can trust them.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
At least I started DBing fairly quickly. Should I confront anything about potential A? Or just keep rollin with the good changes at home. Or if she is in A and I aporoach her about it. Will that just make things worse
Like my faith-based therapist told me: the truth always has a way of coming to light. Forget about her for now and go back to your personal breakthrough earlier: focus on you and becoming the best ozman you can be!
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
W was not home when I got here. She had S with her. I DBd and didn’t call her. Just got to work in the yard, perfect right?
She calls about 40 min later
Me, hello? Her, hey, what’s up? Me, diggen a hole for post. What’s up? Her, oh well you could’ve called. I’ve just been setting over here at Sisters house after picking up S Me o well I wasn’t trying to bug you Her ok well we were watching a movie and I was starting to doze. What you want for dinner Me hmm I dunno. Salad? Burgers? Her ok well I’ll head that way
Ok guys interpret please. I thought I shouldn’t call cause that’s pressure. But she obviously wanted me to call
