She's being oddly nice...but not like the fake nice she does before she does something crazy...but like genuinely considerate. She even paid for some of S's day care costs. 0_o
Something has changed.
The friend she called crying the other day saw her again this week. He asked about the call since they didn't really get to talk about it much...and she started crying just by him mentioning it.
Still going forward. But something is changing with her.
Ah, yeah. Let me clarify. This "he" is a mutual friend that is happily married and isn't the kind of guy to get involved with anyone other than his own W. There's no interest between the two of them (him and W).
When she called him, she was scared of the storm and wanted to talk to him (presumably) to see if I would possibly take her back. Neither him nor I have any real idea what was going on. He asked her to explain why she called, she just cried. He didn't push the conversation any further.
I trust this guy. He's the person that helped me get the job I have today, and his office is right next to mine. He's a good man.
BPDs can be kind and considerate when they want to be. It’s likely because her hoovering isn’t working and you’ve earned a bit of her respect. Keep it. Don’t let your guard down.
Experience: thought I was BPD but it turned out to be PTSD. Behaviors and thoughts are similar.
So this morning I got a message from W. She was at a yard sale, found a computer monitor for $20, and wanted to know if I wanted her to pick it up for me.
0_o
I told her "no thanks, I'm good on monitors right now."
