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[SoTorn]

I agree 100% on the zero communication. I just moved out. My EXWW (D went through in less than 2 months) wanted to come by. I told her no. Why would I want her in my house?

I have zero to say to my EXWW. Her choice was keep me as her H or nothing and she elected the nothing option, so I have moved on and I will respect that. I now have my own home, still have my Shelby GT350, my kids are with me half the time and this first two weeks I have taken time off of work to focus on myself and my kids.

My gorgeous girlfriend will be here tomorrow to spend a week with me. Life is good. Life is beautiful. Looking forward to getting fully into the swing of GAL on my own.

There will be no communication with my EXWW because there is no reason, my kids are old enough that I can speak directly with them and D16 can drive her and S12 back and forth between houses.

[bhappy2]

She has not talked to me in two years, I dont know what there is to talk about. My youngest child is 20, not sure what there is to discuss. She doesnt even talk to the kids anymore. The reason is, is that I dont need to talk to her at all. This is now the second time she has tried to use the L's to do this, I am not interested at all...

I sent a text about six months ago about D20 going back to college, I got no response.

[bhappy2]

I agree 100% on the zero communication. I just moved out. My EXWW (D went through in less than 2 months) wanted to come by. I told her no. Why would I want her in my house?

I am going on two years, if I didnt file a court date this would still be going on. I agree, I want nothing to do with her.

[bhappy2]

Updating:

Just had the conversation with the children about finding apartments and its time to start looking. They were not happy. They asked if they could pay me rent and continue to live here, I said I dont think thats possible bc the money I have to pay W is much higher than I could afford. They then said they would help with buying her out and i said no thats not how this works. S23 then said this isnt right, he said that he has not talked to his mom since Christmas and that she will not answer his texts. He then says she doesnt care about him and at this point he'll show her what not caring is!... he is very angry with her and so is S22. I didnt know it was this extreme. He said that him and his siblings are really mad at the whole situation and the amount of damage W has caused. I just validated him, I did not talk bad about his mom at all.

I started cleaning out the house and getting rid of stuff that I was never going to use anyway. I am really starting to see a much better life.

I have been talking with a woman for about six months gone on a few lunch dates and had a few drinks with her and we really hit it off. I fully explained that I am going to go slow with this relationship and she was fine with that. I am meetng her tonight for some drinks. She is 10 years younger than me.

Getting ready to go for a run, coffee, beet juice.... sometimes and Advil...LOL...

I have hired a part time employee so I have some extra time off from work, this has been just great as I have been able to cook some great meals and get stuff done around the house.

Summer is here and I am going to enjoy a summer for the first time in many years!!! Ok gotta go GAL calls..

[bhappy2]

Journaling:

What a great Fathers Day! The best I have had in years.

It all started on Saturday as we set up for having a party for my family for fathers day. I bought way too much food, but it was really a lot of fun. Wings, Shrimp, and hero's! Beer and wine... you get the idea. The best part was there was not one question about my sitch at all. Its just a distant memory at this point, but that doesnt mean W didnt try and get me to try and contact her. A quick explanation: W stole a ring that I had from 1987 that was valued at about $500.00 I had gone through the L's to get it back and i was close to filing a police report. Long story short she returned it on Saturday with a message that we dont have to go through the L's for everything. I did not send a message back.

Sunday morning started out with a 5K at 9:30am. We have done this before and only S22 didnt run. We did great and I have the championship for the next year, I came in last, last year so with all the running I did over the last year I the blew them away, next closest to me was D24 and she was over 5 minutes behind. S23 ran but went out Sat. night so he was a little under the weather.

The party started at 2pm and went until about 7pm... great time. The best part was the text messages I recieved this morning about how much everyone had a good time and I really set everything up so nice. it was a lot of work but well worth it.

Monday morning, cleanup is complete, getting ready for a run then relax before work.

Listen to the vets on this site, get a coach, follow through with this, you got this!

[neffer]

Great post BH, enjoy your GAL!

[AnotherStander]

Great update BH!

Long story short she returned it on Saturday with a message that we dont have to go through the L's for everything.

Right, and she didn't have to STEAL YOUR RING IN THE FIRST PLACE!!!! Good grief! She steals something and expects, what, that you're going to say "hey can you give me back that ring that you stole from me?" Like you would have ever seen that again!

[Destroyd]

bhappy, I am so glad that you had a good Father's Day. You deserved it!

[bhappy2]

Advice needed:

So we are at the point of negotiating our D and for the third time I have been asked to reach out to W by both L's to start communicating. W has stated through her attorney that she doesnt like that we dont talk and would like to start communicating again. This happened at the courthouse about a month and a half ago then on June 3rd and now again yesterday. I have decided that its just not possible for me to buy her out and I want to sell the house. She has come back with delay tactics everytime. It takes 2-3 weeks to get a response from her and her L.

We have court tomorrow and my L said that she still wants you to reach out to her. I just dont know if I can/or want to do that.

Please Vets should i text her? What is there to talk about? Pretty much the tough decisions have been made. Tomorrow the judge is going to order that we put the house up for sale, this is why we are going.

Just to clarify my frustration, in every correspodance with W's L I have cleary stated that I do not want the dog. In every single correspondance back I get: You can keep the dog, its like they are not even reading what I am telling them. My L finally called the opposing side to clarify this. Its really just so hard to understand. W keeps saying through her L that the dog can stay with the house.... ugh.... so tiresome. The house has to be sold... what doesnt she understand.

I realize that WAW/WW dont think straight, but we are at the point where she needs to make some decisions.

BTW it is me pushing for these court dates because she wont respond, I really just want to put this whole transaction behind me.

[Davide]

What is there to communicate about? You say that the judge is going to order the house to be sold tomorrow. Your wife doesn't seem to want the dog so it's up to you to decide what to do (keep it, find a home, find a rescue, or take it to a shelter.) Done and done.

I get the urge to rush through this, but you can't necessarily control the timeline, so just take it as it comes. It will be all over soon enough.