So far it has just been us and 4 months of really meeting no one. Last night while we were at dinner I sent my mom a picture of us together and she sent her mom one as well.
It's gradual but maybe we are both starting to gradually be more vulnerable.
Went and saw the dr last night for about 2.5 hours. No new developments, I thought about telling her I loved her but got scared and didn't think while we were in bed was the most appropriate time. I did tell her I would like for her to meet some of my friends this coming up weekend and she agreed.
These friends are an older couple that my XW and I have known since our oldest D was 3 months old. The are really more like parents than anything else as min live roughly 5 hours away. These friends are also friends with my XW and they have met her BF as well. They are really my closest friends and outside of my neighbors and guys a play basketball with I don't have many people to introduce her to.
The dr's birthday is Wednesday so I am going to send her roses to her work and I got her a necklace as well. We won't get to celebrate it on the day so I will either take her out to dinner this weekend or have her over to my house and I will cook. I was going to bake her a cake as well but she told me not to as she is a cake snob I wouldn't eat it. I might just get a small cupcake instead as everyone needs to blow out candles and get sung happy birthday!
I realize it has only been 4 months and there really is no rush to do anything so I will just continue to remain patient.
I kind of feel the same way ju. She is super sweet bought me some gifts this past weekend and offered to give me some art work from her house for my walls. I told her she could help me hang them in the proper location.
I feel it coming on I just have to find the right time. It is starting to stress me out. I think I need some of gs vape!
Ok well J9 went for it tonight, said the words and she came back with "I am not quite there yet". LOL....well that was awkward and I guess I am not good at reading her. I actually have no regrets, I might have taken her by surprise as well. We were talking about something and then she starting talking about who loves her. So I said well I love you, while we were kissing and it came to a skreetching hault.
I guess we shall see how she handles it. What will be will be. At least I didn't throw out there in this purposeful romantic moment
Wow J... good for you even if the outcome wasn’t the best. As long as that is how you really feel. I can’t imagine saying it first myself but hope I feel that way about someone where I want to. That was a vulnerable move for you and took some guts with the uncertain outcome.
I am glad I did P...I have no regrets am I feel secure with expressing it. If men are supposed to take the lead in the R then I am a better man for it. When she said I am getting there I just said that's ok you don't have to reciprocate. It;s not a reciprocal thing. I finished my beer and we chatted for a while longer and then I left, hugged and kissed. Later when I got home she sent me text telling me good night with a kiss lips emjoi and I heart.
I think I surprised her and caught her off guard. I will just continue doing my thing and what will be will be..
Nice... good for you. Doesn’t sound like her reaction was terrible. You are right I think... it probably caught her off guard especially since it was kind of mid convo??
It just felt that the timing was right and an easy transition without this big correographed moment. I do, have felt my feelings growing for the past couple week, getting more comfortable and wanting to spend more time with her. I care about her deeply, still scared but I good scared. She is a beautiful person on the inside and out. I believe that my feelings will only continue to grow. I am not looking to get married tomorrow but I do see that we have a future.
Oh boy awkward for sure. Coach says if you do everything right should be by 8 weeks. You must be screwing up big time lol. Don't think it's a big deal unless she starts pulling back.
