I know. I don't need Donny H, Andy P and the girls up my rear end every time something is taken out of context.
Yeah - those jokers need to lighten up once in a while
On BD H52, W50 T27, M26 S21, D23 BD-9-Mar-16 D-15-Jan-18 Final-19-Apr-18 I am a storyteller. The story may do you no good. But a story is never for the listener. It is always for the one who tells
I remember when I first started dating I was all excited then I guess maybe reality set in or who knows what but now it has changed for me. I don’t feel that I am depressed, maybe not completely over my D, maybe afraid to be vulnerable again, I don’t know.
Under the heading of "me too" well, it's a different kind of me too but still... don't feel alone in this as it's pretty much how I felt way back when. About the only reason why that I could rule out was the not over my D as I fully was by the time I finally started dating, but remember with me it was nearly three years later. When you first start out, you think it will be like it was when you were younger - much younger. It was way more fun, seemed easier, for sure less baggage. Then you add in OLD and think, oh wow this will have to make it even easier... but reality then sets in and you find out dating is much harder than it used to be and OLD may even be making it worse not better. I can't tell you why you are feeling like you are, just know many others have gone through the exact same thing.
Originally Posted by LH19
I have been on 13 OLD dates and only wanted a second date once. I am not sure if I am too picky, if I am not ready for a commitment or am just happy being alone.
And once again, "Me Too!" I've not been on 13 OLD in the same time span that you have but did at least that many over time and only wanted a second date with two and did the second date with one - which then became a third and fourth before it fizzled. I know I'm too picky but I'm not changing that - and my too picky is not at all just based on looks. I want it all. I'm more ready for a commitment than I was but still not out looking for it. I'm very happy being alone - most of the time.
There are those who talk themselves into falling for the first person they date. That's clearly not the three of us - and I maintain that's healthy. Some people seem to be able to overlook all sorts of things that we can't. Show up looking 20 years older than your photos and we'd say "no F'ing way" while others say, "Oh, it's okay." Still married and working on the D, I'd say no way, others are okay with it. Sometimes I wish I could be that way, but I can't and flaws and all, I'm still very happy with who I am. I think you guys are in that same category as well - which is again, why we might be in the same camp.
As for you Jospeh, I have some thoughts on what may be going on with you but I'll save them for your thread.
Originally Posted by Twofeet
LH,You need to start a thread.
I've been trying to tell him that for a long time now but all I get is one flimsy excuse after another. It takes a special kinda guy to put yourself out there like that. Ba Ha Ha Ha
DonH Midwest Me 56 WAW-EXW 55 Met 11/95 / Married 5/00 Bomb 6/20/05 / She Filed on 6/2/06 / Divorced on 10/9/06 4 who'd qualify as GF since D & dated about 25 women since D
To bring this thread back. This weekend I started talking to this girl on Match and she came out and said she’s a WAW and she had wanted out for 5 years but waited for her daughter to graduate from school. Her words “ I usually don’t put my happiness first but I’m learning”.
Not sure how I feel about dating a self proclaimed WAW.
