Quick update. I'm meeting with the mediator tomorrow to rewrite the section of the separation agreement regarding using the QDRO money to pay off her house, instead of withholding the QDRO money until she refinanced. I anticipate that it should be a piece of cake, as we've already agreed via email as to how we want it. We could have the separation agreement signed by tomorrow afternoon.
I'm not dreading it. I just want to get it done at this point. After all, it's just a piece of paper.
M:23 T:26 Me:53, Wife: 60 S:18 D:16 filed 7/16 W moved out 4/28/17
Every little step makes things better. You are probably going to feel at least some relief as the paperwork and adminstrative stuff gets finished up. It's like a chore you know you have to do.
You seem to be doing well, though!
Save yourself. Nobody is coming! BD:11/2017 Filed:12/2017 Final: 2/2018
I don't know either. Seems like it should be called "The Divorce Agreement", but that's just how the mediator and our lawyers refer to it, so.... I don't know about mailing it off, but her lawyer should take the signed original to court, and it basically becomes the legally binding terms of the divorce. Who gets what, and so on. Others with more experience can chime in, but I think there is a little other paperwork, but not much.
Yesterday I met with the mediator. W didn't show up. I called and she said she was too ill. The mediator and I talked about the changes, and wrote them up. I called her back to make sure the changes met with her approval, and they did. I'm about to ask her if she's still too ill to go to a notary and sign it.
M:23 T:26 Me:53, Wife: 60 S:18 D:16 filed 7/16 W moved out 4/28/17
Others with more experience can chime in, but I think there is a little other paperwork, but not much.
It varies quite a bit from state-to-state. Here in TX there is no legal process for separation, only divorce. Other states have separate paths to follow for separation versus divorce. Sounds like where you are separation is part of the D process.
In TX if things are amicable you can prepare the D decree yourselves, then you just show up in court and both tell the judge you agree to the terms and boom, that's it you're D'd. There's really not much to it unless the terms are in dispute.It does help to have a L to help you navigate the process though, they know the ins and outs and what the judge is looking for and where to file the papers and all that.
tell the judge you agree to the terms and boom, that's it you're D'd. There's really not much to it unless the terms are in dispute.It does help to have a L to help you navigate the process though, they know the ins and outs and what the judge is looking for and where to file the papers and all that.
Here in PA there is no legal separation either,but the Separation Agreement is just a statement of the terms, confirming they are not in dispute. I'm going to let her L navigate the process from here so I don't have to. Thanks for all your support over the years, AS.
W and I met at the bank yesterday to sign/notarize the Separation Agreement. We needed a witness, so a mutual friend came by later and signed the agreement. I'm going to drop it off at her house right now. Bittersweet. People keep saying "congratulations" and "I'm so happy for you", but I don't really feel "happy" about it. It's just one more part of the process to endure.
M:23 T:26 Me:53, Wife: 60 S:18 D:16 filed 7/16 W moved out 4/28/17
I know PA well. Too bad this isn't really the place to ask specifics about where you live but PA is a wonderful state.
I hope those days of filling out paperwork and pouring over little details are almost over. You seem to be handling it well. What are your plans for the holidays?
Nicole, I had the kids for Thanksgiving, so they are going to be with me through Christmas Eve church service, then they'll go over to W's and I'm going to head a few hours south to where my family lives and spend it with them. What about you? I know you feel isolated. Do you have family or friends to share the holidays with?
M:23 T:26 Me:53, Wife: 60 S:18 D:16 filed 7/16 W moved out 4/28/17
