Saw this on Sandi's last post and it hit a nerve for me. I have a well paying job, lead many folks, BUT even with that to my W how I earned my living was not admirable to her versus other professions. Like I say something I felt from W for a long time that there wasn't much besides changing professions that I could have done to change her mind.
In the calculus of love between two people it always amazes me how some of the most random S88T can throw a kink in the works so to speak. Anyway...
LOL...neffer I'm just messing around on the funeral deal. the longer I'm here, the more I think my already having been D'd once before provides me a greater level of insight than when I first arrived.
I lost once, only to be blessed greater than I could imagine, only to find myself on the losing end again...only to now wonder what good stuff lies ahead. a very strange place for me compared to so many on here.
and yes her post was. the shortest, simplest statements so many times have the greatest impact. I find myself cherry picking through much I read on here this days. so much that's good for me as I work to improve myself.
I didn't want to hijack the other thread but in 4 years being on this board, approximately 90% of the posters end up divorced. I remember for like a 2 year span everyone used Texhubby as the example, because he was the only one for years who prevented a divorce. The three years of limbo almost killed him though.
92% of people are terrible at sticking to DB because they don't have the discipline that it takes not to backslide and pursue. In many ways its like weight loss, if people were good at being self-disciplined everyone would be fit.
The fact that people have difficulty sticking to the program doesn't mean it doesn't work!
Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11 Start Reconcile: 8/15/11 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced) In a New Relationship: 3/2015