Nobody can steal your dreams. What makes us strong is that we stand no matter the adversity. So there you are, standing strong with honor, dignity and faith. Start walking then, moving forward.
Manta is there, shining.
(((((M)))))
WW H(me): 53 W: 48 T: 27 M: 22 S: 18 Piecing since 03/2016 Saw the light in the storm
Thank you Neffer. I understand that. It's mind-boggling how much my life has been changed so quickly in less than 6 months. I know WW is in full limerance right now, but that can't last forever. I'm finding myself, keeping my chin up and trying to get through this very difficult and emotional time with some dignity and self-respect.
I sent a Christmas card to WW's family a few weeks ago, I haven't received any reply. I really love and miss them all, so I wanted to do it out of respect. They're proud people, who believe in family values and respect.
My in-laws were like a second family and always made me so welcome. I know it's hard for them all, as they did love and respect me too. They always said I was like a second son and they were so proud that WW had met a wonderful husband like me. I don't know will they reply, maybe a text. Perhaps WW has painted me in a very negative way and they don't want to hear from me again. I didn't add any silly messages, just a simple happy Christmas and best wishes from Manta.
I can't live in worrying what they think, only what I think of myself right now. WW made a very selfish decision, she will have to live with that guilt and shame for the rest of her life.
I miss the W and woman I thought she was. I hope 2019 will be a good one. I haven't kissed or slept with anyone since my WW. It's been a very lonely journey.
BH: 36 WW:33 M: 2 Relationship: 6 years. Dday: Aug 2018 0 1st mention of D: 30/09, 2nd Mention 17/02/2019 LRT: Oct 2018 WW & AP: EA & PA since June 2018 (Moved country and in with AP Feb 2019)
the failure is not yours alone. I say this not to heap blame on her or you.
Sometimes we have to let go of everyone and see who is still there after that. You want to be wanted, and that's preferable to forcing someone to stay. It stinks.
Enjoy those turds nieces and nephews. Enjoy Christmas. Enjoy life!!!!! You're young enough, you have a lot of life left. Go and make more money and kick life in the @ss!
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My WW stole that dream from me.
Wrong! You will live your dreams if you want to.
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The fact it's over 2 and a half months since she said "I want a divorce", she hasn't filed.
Gotta be strong for the time being. You obviously don't want it to be over, or else you'd have filed. Well, that same line of thinking goes for her too. Who knows where this will lead. Limbo ends when both agree or someone pulls the trigger on D.
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I remember years ago before we really dated, she disappeared for over 5 months of NC, then returned and said "I love you, I'm sorry"..
Strange behavior, what happened here? Did you just gloss it over because you loved her?
I love that you're staying NC. I guarantee she is thinking of you as well. Doesn't mean y'all are getting back together, but she's going through it too.
Your inlaws likely don't have the whole story and may just want to "stay out of it" or not aggravate your W. If they don't send a card, then oh well.
H 34 W 29 BD 3/12/18 Divorce Busted Spring 19
It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.
Thank you for taking the time to comment on my post.
This was back in 2013, I had only known her a year at this stage. We were in a LDR, as she lived in another country.
I'm not sure what we were back then, but in Jan 2013, she basically said she wanted to be alone as she was feeling down and depressed. It hurt at the time, however, I hadn't spent much time with her physically, as we were far away.
She stopped talking to me for all those months. Then months later around June/July 2013, I found out she was in a relationship with a guy in her country, soon she started messaging me again saying she missed me and loved me etc, I kept my distance and she pursued more. She then moved to my country in 2014, as she wanted to spend her life with me and made up her mind. At that time, I forgave her, as I felt maybe she was just young and lonely, I wasn't in her country, the thought of our future might not have been realistic. When she did move over, I took it that she was very serious about me.
I have no idea is NC making a difference. I'm doing it for my sanity, off social media, whatsapp etc. I'm protecting my heart, as it's in pieces.
I went Christmas shopping today with my parents. All the Christmas songs playing made me very emotional, where i had tears in my eyes in the shops. It's so embarrassing, but I really can' help it.
All i want for Christmas is... the hurt to disappear.
BH: 36 WW:33 M: 2 Relationship: 6 years. Dday: Aug 2018 0 1st mention of D: 30/09, 2nd Mention 17/02/2019 LRT: Oct 2018 WW & AP: EA & PA since June 2018 (Moved country and in with AP Feb 2019)
It is so hard Manta. I hear you. Just know that you WILL get through this. You WILL. It doesn’t feel like it right now but things are always darkest before the dawn. Have faith. Practice gratitude. Do something kind for someone else. Spend time with your family. You will be glad you did. (((Manta)))
I'm very grateful for my wonderful friends and family. They have been there for me.
I will get through this.
BH: 36 WW:33 M: 2 Relationship: 6 years. Dday: Aug 2018 0 1st mention of D: 30/09, 2nd Mention 17/02/2019 LRT: Oct 2018 WW & AP: EA & PA since June 2018 (Moved country and in with AP Feb 2019)
I just want to wish everyone a Happy Christmas and blessings & love.
It's been a difficult 2018 for a lot of us here.
Thank you all for your help support and advice in the last few months. I wish I had a good story to tell you all this Christmas, however, it's not meant to be for now.
Love Manta.
BH: 36 WW:33 M: 2 Relationship: 6 years. Dday: Aug 2018 0 1st mention of D: 30/09, 2nd Mention 17/02/2019 LRT: Oct 2018 WW & AP: EA & PA since June 2018 (Moved country and in with AP Feb 2019)
So just about got through last night. I didn't sleep and was very stressed and anxious the whole day. I had so much built up anger, hurt and it was very emotional for me, also my family. It's certainly taken its toll on us all.
I heard nothing from WW, or her family this Christmas. I messaged WW's brother a Happy Christmas, however, he didn't reply. I thought we had a good relationship. WW's uncle did message me a Happy Christmas, which I appreciated. I know blood is thicker than water.
I didn't break NC with WW, as what's the point. She's obviously has checked out and has no respect for me.
Getting back to GAL. continuing my healing. Looking forward to 2019.
BH: 36 WW:33 M: 2 Relationship: 6 years. Dday: Aug 2018 0 1st mention of D: 30/09, 2nd Mention 17/02/2019 LRT: Oct 2018 WW & AP: EA & PA since June 2018 (Moved country and in with AP Feb 2019)
It's so unfair and sad what you're going through. It's so cruel and on one hand your wife doesn't ever deserve to have you back and yet you love her and wish she'd come back. It's such a no-win situation. It's great that you're focused on healing but the pain sadly doesn't just disappear as fast as we wish, especially when you really, truly loved your wife.
WW'S Family replied and me sent me a really nice Christmas card saying how happy they were to hear from me and sent their love, support and best wishes to me in the future.
They also thanked my family for all our generosity and love. Her mom, Dad and brother all signed the card individually. Except WW.
It meant so much to me this little gesture, as i felt they wouldn't reply or say anything to me again.
Perhaps they are not happy with WW and her very selfish behaviour and conduct.
GAL, 180 and keeping NC until WW gets her head out of her a$$
BH: 36 WW:33 M: 2 Relationship: 6 years. Dday: Aug 2018 0 1st mention of D: 30/09, 2nd Mention 17/02/2019 LRT: Oct 2018 WW & AP: EA & PA since June 2018 (Moved country and in with AP Feb 2019)
