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Expectation management IH, a piece of cake...


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Hey IH did you ever have that conversation? And what happened on Halloween? Hopefully you'll catch us up. Something must be going on with you and your ex?


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Hi Guys,
Sorry I haven't been back... life's been busy. Nope haven't heard a peep from WAW since she vanished from that text the day after the movie. To hell with her...I'm focusing on a lady I met online a couple years back. We both got with someone else for a couple years, Mary for me, and now she's single again and has been talking to me again and we're making plans to hang out...and this lady is drop dead gorgeous...at least in the photos she's shared, so I definitely want to meet her in person and check out if the goods are as advertised. She seems into me so we'll see what happens.
If WAW contacts me I'll let you all know. I plan to just outright tell her that I want to get back together with her and friendship is not an option anymore. I'll tell her to leave me alone unless she wants to talk serious R. Or maybe I won't hear from her at all again. Who knows and really, at this point who cares?! My Give-A-Shi# Meter is officially on zero with her LOL!

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What happened to your koans for Halloween? Did she not even contact you about that? As some of gas had stated, I don't thunk she knows what she wants. She's not layung games with you - she just doesn't know. Until she does you are probably best off where you are. Hope you'll still keep,us updated regardless of what happens and with whom!


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IH,

I wouldn't give her the same spiel about only wanting a relationship again. She no doubt knows that by now. It blows my mind but 4 years later you are still plan b. She lied to you about not dating anymore and apparently hasn't given up hope that there is something better out there.

I would just respond to her texts with short replies and rebuff all her requests to get together with "sorry I have plans". Make it so she asks you what is wrong. Then tell her I clearly told you I am not interested in being friends and then wait for her response to that statement.

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I agree with LH IH. No need to push, no need to pull. Her loss. You are not waiting for her.


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No Don, not a word from her about Halloween...nothing since that day after the movie. I certainly wasn't going to text her so I just left it at that and did something else.

Yup, I agree...when and if she ever contacts me again she's getting three-word replies designed to get her to ask me what's wrong. Then at that time I'll tell her I'm not interested in being friends and to go about her merry way and leave me alone. She had her chance and then some. I really don't expect to hear from her for quite some time now anyway...I'm actually hoping I don't truth be told...I was so bored stiff with her anyway so it's for the best.

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Originally Posted by ItHurts
Then at that time I'll tell her I'm not interested in being friends and to go about her merry way and leave me alone.


That sounds a little weak and pouty.

I would just say I made it clear to you that I am not interested in being friends.

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Good idea. Will do.


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Good advice LH.

IH, sorry to hear about this. But we all know we're on the roller coaster.

Still rooting for you.


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