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My WW informed me today that this means "war" because i retained a L. Says she was being nice before this.


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Water of of duck's back buddy, water of of a duck's back...

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Originally Posted by equalzr
My WW informed me today that this means "war"


What is she, like 5 years old?

Ignore her. Don't take the bait.

Just carry on doing you.


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Originally Posted by FlySolo
Originally Posted by equalzr
My WW informed me today that this means "war"


What is she, like 5 years old?

Ignore her. Don't take the bait.

Just carry on doing you.


I just told her to grow up. I mean really? Shes asking for a D, initiating a custody battle, and trying to bleed me dry. What does she expect?

Thank you all for the support, it means so much.


Together:20 years
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hang in there. You're doing fine {hugs}


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Originally Posted by equalzr
I just told her to grow up. I mean really? Shes asking for a D, initiating a custody battle, and trying to bleed me dry. What does she expect?


She expects you to role over like a puppy dog.


Would you put stats in your signature? Helps us who have not followed closely

Your age and gender
Spouses age
number of kids, ages
date of bomb drop
date A confirmed
Is OP still in the picture
Current sleeping arrangements
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R2C,

I added info. Hope it shows up.


Together:20 years
M:3 years
Me:40
WW:40
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A suspected:5/17
AC:5/18
BD:8/18
WW in full blown R w/ OM
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Originally Posted by Ready2Change

She expects you to role over like a puppy dog.



Exactly. As long as everything goes her way its fine....if not, its war. Ridiculous.

Good news is, im done. Im over her.

Last edited by equalzr; 10/28/18 12:21 AM.

Together:20 years
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Thanks. Signature helps.


Originally Posted by equalzr
... Shes asking for a D, initiating a custody battle, and trying to bleed me dry. ..

Sounds familiar.


How have you protected yourself? IE cancelling all joint cc and phone accounts etc....
Do everything you can to not enable the A.

Have you made a list of goals and prioritized them? Short term, medium term, long term?

I ask this because there may be more urgent things to address.


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Originally Posted by Ready2Change

Thanks. Signature helps.


Originally Posted by equalzr
... Shes asking for a D, initiating a custody battle, and trying to bleed me dry. ..

Sounds familiar.


How have you protected yourself? IE cancelling all joint cc and phone accounts etc....
Do everything you can to not enable the A.

Have you made a list of goals and prioritized them? Short term, medium term, long term?

I ask this because there may be more urgent things to address.






Yes im trying, but my head is spinning there is soooo much to do. Im trying to find a new place, going through a D, looking for a different job, and much more. I think all the accounts are separated, and WW was the breadwinner so hopefully that part wont be a concern. Investments, retirement, etc may be a different case. L will have to walk me through that.

As for goals, im definitely making a personal list. Some are long term, and some are short term, but im still working on all of them now. I refuse to not come out of this a better man, that would be a tragedy.


Together:20 years
M:3 years
Me:40
WW:40
S15
A suspected:5/17
AC:5/18
BD:8/18
WW in full blown R w/ OM
Still under same roof
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