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Originally Posted by pain18
I did not mention to her that I saw them...yet.


Do not reveal your sources!

Just Let her know you are done with the deceptive behavior and lies....

H:"W, Stop, we both know you are lying. When you are ready to be honest with me, I will listen." and walk away.


"What is best for my kids is best for me"
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Originally Posted by pain18
I did not mention to her that I saw them...yet.


Do not reveal your sources!

Just Let her know you are done with the deceptive behavior and lies....

H:"W, Stop, we both know you are lying. When you are ready to be honest with me, I will listen." and walk away.


I need this beaten into my head.


1/6/18-BD OM1
2/18-W meets OM2
4/18-W intros D4 to OM2
5/18-“Romance ends"
7/18-DB start
7/18-IHS Ends
4/19-WW moves out
3/21-D filed

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Originally Posted by pain18
I need this beaten into my head.

Start here:

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2045336#Post2045336


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I am in the middle of a text fight between me and W regarding taking D4 to OMs place. I put my foot down and said “no”.

And she is mad.

Here we go “being a man”.

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4/18-W intros D4 to OM2
5/18-“Romance ends"
7/18-DB start
7/18-IHS Ends
4/19-WW moves out
3/21-D filed

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Stick to your boundaries, I know we have no control when it comes to our WS taking the kids to AP, but as a parent we have a right to stand up for what we believe is good for our children. I am with you, not that I have any control or have been able to stop it in anyway but I still HATE it when my D3.5 talks to OW and I have told WH that.
You are watching out for your D4, as any good father would do.

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Pain, I am sorry to hear this. I do not have any recommendations other that control your anger. Do not let it get physical. Do not get baited into any altercations.


Get legal advice asap.


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Divorce is likely. W does not want assets and want this done as quickly and painlessly as possible. Likely going to give her m 401k balance to help, but I don't know yet. More to come.

Sad but not devastated anymore. I'm tired of the anxiety.

I have no idea what to do next. I'm just wanting sex now. Like no joke.

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1/6/18-BD OM1
2/18-W meets OM2
4/18-W intros D4 to OM2
5/18-“Romance ends"
7/18-DB start
7/18-IHS Ends
4/19-WW moves out
3/21-D filed

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You're really hurting right now. You need to settle down still my man. This is tough. You are tougher.


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Ovr,

We basically surrendered last night. The M is over. Vanilla was right. W is in a transitional R.

This is me truly letting go. This is me surrendering. This is me accepting that our R is truly over.

No busting this D. It’s likely to happen

I’m tired. Tired of fighting a losing battle. Tired of the anxiety and sleepless nights. And tired or putting hope into something that a left a long time ago.

I am terribly sad.

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2/18-W meets OM2
4/18-W intros D4 to OM2
5/18-“Romance ends"
7/18-DB start
7/18-IHS Ends
4/19-WW moves out
3/21-D filed

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Well P, time to stand for yourself. Get the strength to start moving forward. Detach more, get your non expectations bag and start the walk. You need to regain respect P. Be there for your little girl but get away from your W. She is WW and you can’t do anything for her...but you can do everything for you. Set yourself free from MR, protect yourself.

Take your time to rest, ease your mind. Keep on working on yourself. Time to taking care of Pain now. You know you need to GAL man. Renew efforts to achieve that.

We are here to listen to you P. You are not alone.

Sending you a big hug man.

(((Pain)))


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T: 27 M: 22
S: 18
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