My WW has been in conflict with OM for almost two weeks now and she is miserable and taking it out all on me. She too has talked of being at the point of self hurt but usually people that want to do that don't tell anyone.
The sitch is perfect for me since all anger is directed at our 18 year R and makes it all the more easy to continue detaching. I don't want to be in her presence. Ironic how the fantasy world comes crashing down after the honeymoon phase. Maybe we will both see the final outcomes soon since WWs are both in pain.
H-50 W-48 T-19 M -18 S23, S14 BD - 5/9/2018 OM discovered 5/10/2018
In house sep - 8/18/2018 Rope drop 2/15/2019 R'ing since 3/15/2019
I don't want to be analyzing this. If a grown person can't express her emotions with own words then one can't. I asked her about it and she hasn't responded. That is her choice. I'm going about with my things as I've done so far.
Me:39 W:36 S:12 D:9 T:14 M:11 Separation:sep. 1 2017 D filed oct. 2017 D finalized july 2018 OM confirmed feb 2018 D finalized July 2018
The fact is this. You have to be in pain before you can learn.
Petri, sounds like you're doing the right thing. I kind of knew this would happen. Your wife wasn't in her right mind when she filed for divorce and now she's realizing OM isn't so perfect and life isn't so great. It didn't take too long for this to happen!
XW was drunk when she sent the link. No surprise there. No particular reason, the lyrics just "described her past process". And "surely the ongoing process also". I don't get WWs at all...oh well, upwards and onwards.
Me:39 W:36 S:12 D:9 T:14 M:11 Separation:sep. 1 2017 D filed oct. 2017 D finalized july 2018 OM confirmed feb 2018 D finalized July 2018
The fact is this. You have to be in pain before you can learn.
So. XW texted today. She is in pieces. I offered her a chance to see the kids since I'm working. She doesn't want kids to see her like this, sad and absent. Everything seems to fall apart around her now. The grass was everything but greener on the otherside. And seems like single life isn't all rainbows and sunshine. Oh well. Moving forward.
Me:39 W:36 S:12 D:9 T:14 M:11 Separation:sep. 1 2017 D filed oct. 2017 D finalized july 2018 OM confirmed feb 2018 D finalized July 2018
The fact is this. You have to be in pain before you can learn.
Now XW wants stop our open house sell. Not to take it off the market just to stop the open house shows. That is funny because she is saying that the only problem is that we still have the house and she doesn't have a place of her own...but apparently we are still in the believe nothing they say and 50% of what they do. But still I'm doing my thing and moving forward.
Me:39 W:36 S:12 D:9 T:14 M:11 Separation:sep. 1 2017 D filed oct. 2017 D finalized july 2018 OM confirmed feb 2018 D finalized July 2018
The fact is this. You have to be in pain before you can learn.
