The age range I usually go for is 21 to 24... Thats a good age range for me.
I'm still picking my jaw up off the floor and staring at the monitor in disbelief here. I'm not at all trying to shame you into anything. In fact I saw your 21 year old comment several days ago but didn't have the time to comment but it hit me like a truck. I just don't get it - not even close. I'm going to take YOU out of this and just talk in general terms about any 42 year old guy and 21 year old woman. Starting with the 21 year old could well be the 42 year old's daughter. But beyond that, what can these two people possibly have in common? What could they find to talk about - for more than an hour I mean. I think I've mentioned this before here but I know of this guy in his 50s who took a woman in her 20s to see the band Chicago - and she had zero clue who they even were. I mean from life experience, to things in common to, man you name it, there is just no potential for compatibility. Yeah, girls at this age are often attractive - that gets no argument and I am totally looking for someone pleasing to the eye to spend time with but holy cow there is just so much more to it all than looks. I'll again just bring it back to me, I'd have to wonder what is it within myself that I am finding myself most comfortable with and attracted to women half my age and along with it well under half the life experience, etc. that I have. Why am I doing that? What is going on inside of me? Am I afraid of women at my same level? What would they be thinking? Most nearly any 21 year old I know would find it beyond creepy if an "old guy" was interested in them. And if not, what is going on with them?
Not trying to shame you, or anything of the kind. I just feel kinda bad about the entire thing. It's just, just not something I can wrap my brain around. Maybe it's me, but I really don't think so.
DonH Midwest Me 56 WAW-EXW 55 Met 11/95 / Married 5/00 Bomb 6/20/05 / She Filed on 6/2/06 / Divorced on 10/9/06 4 who'd qualify as GF since D & dated about 25 women since D
Gotta agree with Don here. It's one thing if you just happen to meet someone much younger that you have an incredible bond with (and even then there are huge challenges to being together that usually disadvantage the younger person). But to purposefully be looking for young girls only - just smacks of using people or being too insecure to date someone who is at your own level.
Ok, so you only want casual dating - trust me, you can find women your own age who only want a f-buddy too and then you won't be taking advantage of some young girl's naïveté. Plus the odds that one of them is going to end up accidentally pregnant is much higher - unless you've had a vasectomy, is that a complication you want in your life?
So BL sent me a note back tell me that she thinks that we would make good friends but the physical attraction is not there for me. Did not expect this with you! Just want to be honest. I hope you understand. You are awesome and your romantic match is out I just don't think it's me.
no more thoughts man...seems like her message is pretty clear. Time to move on and think about what you can learn from this experience. She obviously viewed things completely differently than you.
Thanks all.....yeah none of it makes sense but saying there is lack of physical attraction is BS. Don't invite me in your house and get it on with me for 30 min if that's not the case. Yeah it [censored] but definitely not worse than D. At least I know that there is hope. I'll just keep moving, I got basketball tomorrow morning.
Yeah I hear you...thanks. None of it makes sense but it is what it is.....lesson learned. Basketball was great this morning until I got kneed in the quad....that hurt. My oldest has her first soccer game of the season in a couple of hours so I am looking forward to that.
