1. You are texting way to much. What are you going to talk about on your date if your an open book? You want some mystery. Is he dating other women? He must be really busy with his career, kids and working out etc.
I set a date on Monday for Thursday and will not text her at all and just show up for the date.Builds anticipation.
2. Date as many women as you can until one of them decides they want to be exclusive. Then you make the choice if you want to be exclusive.
3. Try to keep it to one date a week until she falls in love with you.
Hey L......thanks, I kind of got sucked into this one but I understand where you are coming from. I definitely agree that I will not be the one to bring up being exclusive. Unfortunately I have not been good at dating multiple women but I no having an abundance of them is a good position to be in.
First meet-up tomorrow. I am probably a little to picky and I have only sent a message to one girl. I am out of town every weekend in the Summer so limits me also.
I am in no hurry and just kinda testing the waters. So far my selection for "spiritual but not religious" and being recently divorced has hampered me a little bit.
I started off in no hurry but then once I started interacting it became kind of fun. It felt weird messaging my first girl but now it's no biggie. This girl did ask me how long I have been D'd for and I told her the paperwork was final in April but separated a year before that and I took a year off to just learn about me.. She pressed me a little but seemed satisfied with my answers. I have learned if they are really interested and into you it doesn't matter.
Ok well my date tonight might end up getting cancelled. She is an IT Manager and told me last night her and her team are having prod issues with a new system and if they can't get it fixed she might have to work tonight.
So uggh......that really stinks. So I told her that it would be unfortunate as we would have to postpone our first kiss but totally understandable......she responded with an LOL, thanks for making me smile. I then told her the kiss has to last for 10 seconds and she responded by saying that maybe she doesn't kiss on the first date, then I responded by saying "you will"
So I guess we shall see what happens. If it doesn't happen tonight then our next opportunity to meet up would be on Sunday afternoon before I get the girls. Next week will be tough since I have them all week so the most I would be able to do would be lunch or grab some coffee over lunch.
My daughters went back to school today and it was the first time that I was not there to see them off. I was actually ok with it so I guess it goes to show how far I have come in over a year.
Your girls know you are there man
(((J9)))
About the dating sitch...it seems J9 transmutated into Speedy Gonzales...;-)
WW H(me): 53 W: 48 T: 27 M: 22 S: 18 Piecing since 03/2016 Saw the light in the storm
I find it interesting to see dating from a man's perspective, so thank you for that. I mean, my best friend is a man and we talk pretty openly about the dating world, but he is in a weirdly unique situation where he kind of wants to date and kind of doesn't, so his insight is skewed a bit differently from men who actually want to date and meet women.
Thanks for giving me the opportunity to see the other side and get a fresh perspective that I don't get from my own head. Oh and fingers crossed that your date is still on for tonight, but if not, Sunday.
Me 52, H53 Bomb drop 9/29/2014 Divorce from XH final 12/17/2014 Marriage #2 12/31/2019 5 adult (step)daughters (3 from XH's first marriage, 2 from current H's previous relationships) 6 grandkids
Alright the date is set between 5:15 and 5:30 tonight. Only meeting for 1 drink because she has to work at 7 pm for her system release into production.
Keep your fingers crossed for me you all! J9 needs to reap the rewards of all the work he has put in!
