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Advice on If i should inform her as to my plan to handle this or leave it alone?


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no need to respond. She didn't ask a question. She was passive-aggressive and realized afterward that it could hurt her in court to be sending messages like that. Document, and ignore.


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My man.

Thanks Steve, i was thinking the same, just needed a bit of a "Sponsor" (like in AA) to keep me in check.


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Of course the devious side of me thinks you should respond with:

"We arent in a relationship, therefore your trust and approval is nor important to me"

LOL

But no don't do that.


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Yep on what S said............unless it ends in a question mark there is no need to respond.


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Originally Posted by Steve85
Of course the devious side of me thinks you should respond with:

"We arent in a relationship, therefore your trust and approval is nor important to me"

LOL

But no don't do that.


HAHAHA Steve's Got JOKES!!

Ill just use the mental image of this to keep me warm at night lol lol.


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Originally Posted by Joseph9
Yep on what S said............unless it ends in a question mark there is no need to respond.


This is a really simple way to determine if a response is needed.
Why didnt i think of this before, and if you mentioned it, shame on me for not noticing.

Thanks J!


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I did smile......if she doesn't put a question mark at the end then just READ the sentence. I still do this with my EW for the most part still......most of our indepth convo about our girls is done via email.


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Ive been trying to get her to use email or the CoParenting App. I have said in more than one way "Please no longer text, if we need to communicate, email is sufficient"


She respects boundaries about as much as Nazi Germany did.
just ask the Pol's.


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Maybe she will when you stop responding or only answer with a "yes" or "no"


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