Really, who gives a crap who files. I don't understand why people make such a big deal out of it. It's who decided to destroy the M, not who actually filed for D who decided to get divorced.
One thousand percent agree with that. I stopped caring about that a long time ago. Do what's right for you. If you want D, stop wasting time and just go for it and get it done. Don't make it an impulse decision, but sit with it for a bit and when you realize you're not making it out of pure emotions, just do it.
I've entertained D for a few months now, but now I am in a place where I am good with it and I will file if W doesn't first. I don't give a rats a$$ if she gets to say to other people that I filed or if my filing proves to her that I didn't want to be with her. Honestly I couldn't give two f$%#s at this point! Look to what you want in life and if it's D, then so be it.
Last edited by Cadet; 05/11/1803:44 AM. Reason: Start a new thread message
Gee, if she didn't contact you, we'd probably never hear from you........b/c you would be move on with your life. One text, and whamo it has you at a lost to what to do? Chris, I've told you previously that she does this to keep you emotionally attached to her. When are you going to believe me?
Here's the respond:
Don't like that one?^^^^^^ How about......."Hell no!"
It is way, way past time to tell her to take a hike. If you had done that when she cheated, she might have straighten up.........instead of still yanking your chain.
I think you need to hear the above again.
The answer to your question "how long do I stay dark?" is "until she stops treating you like [censored], and expresses remorse and an actual desire to fix things." Until then, ANY CONTACT you have with her is going to make your situation WORSE.
^^^^^Chris, hopefully third time's a charm for you, READ THIS!! BELIEVE THIS!!!!^^^^^
Originally Posted By: Ginger1
Really, who gives a crap who files. I don't understand why people make such a big deal out of it. It's who decided to destroy the M, not who actually filed for D who decided to get divorced.
