What to Do? 7

[EastTN]

She doesn't need you to do anything to file, she can file anytime she wants. She needs you to sign for an uncontested (agreed) divorce.

Let her mail them to you. Review them (or have an attorney review them), sign in front of a notary and have them seal, and mail them back.

[chris19]

Yea, we are going to do a dissolution rather than an actual divorce (for the purpose of saving money on both of us).

I could still just have her mail them too me right?

[artista]

I could still just have her mail them too me right?

Yes. Have her mail them. I can't believe you are actually asking that... You still want any purpose to see her... If you keep doing this, cycling, you will be in this spot a year from now... You will not have detached, and likely, she will end up filing anyway... See TATE's situation... and HaWho's on MLC thread... They were sticking it out, hanging on, but were left by their nasty spouses anyway...

[chris19]

I told her to mail them to me and I would sign them and have them noterized. She came back with "so your trying to aviod seeing me?

[OrangeK]

Guiltbait. Dont answer.

[chris19]

I did not respond; and she came back with a...
- Hello?
- Are you ok with this?
- I would like to see you and do this together.

[joejoe1]

Chris,

Keep up the great work. We know it's not easy. Make her fight to see you.

If she don't fight for you she dont deserve you.

And, how crazy is her logic, she want to get a D together, like you all are going to a movie or something. How much fun can we have getting a D? Her text just sounds crazy.

[artista]

Don't give in to her... She is awful to you... She wants to feel good about it... And she wants you to be her little puppy dog friend... Her behavior toward you is so disrespectful... she doesn't deserve a response... She doesn't deserve to have you by her side as she ends your marriage... And doesn't deserve to know your feelings about it... She wants you to say you don't feel good about it... She says she wants the best for you, but that is a lie... She wants what she wants... She is self-absorbed...

[artista]

I just reread her text to you... "I would like to do this together."

Who cares what she wants? Why should you accommodate her? People in h3LL want ice water... That comment has me livid!

[chris19]

Yea, I am realizing how her grip on me completely has blinded me to the disrespect which is coming my way.