AMEN....just so mad I failed the first test. I guess I just need to get back on the horse and start riding again. I guess on a positive note I was able to tell he some of the positive things I have going on in my life. I just have to continue to remind myself no more conversations!!!! UGGGH....I am so mad!
TxHubby all.......should I call her bluff and make arrangements to sit down with her and discuss our Divorce process with dividing things up, etc. I know it's a risk but she has been moved out for 3 weeks. Or do I just sit back, continue to detach and do nothing and vow to myself to never get sucked in again???
Stop ruminating and self-flagellating (flatulating is ok) and start building a wonderful life for yourself. And, if you start making a bunch of money, then please send some of it my way.
Lol...no doubt. I will just get back to grinding and following the rules. On the positive side I did get a chance to tell her some of things I had been doing so she knows I am out and about being a viable man not just sitting at home crying. I also told her I am confident and I know a thousand woman would want to be with a man like me. Maybe a little too arrogant/confident but accurate .
TxHubby all.......should I call her bluff and make arrangements to sit down with her and discuss our Divorce process with dividing things up, etc. I know it's a risk but she has been moved out for 3 weeks. Or do I just sit back, continue to detach and do nothing and vow to myself to never get sucked in again???
If you want to save your M then no. Don't condescend to have R talks with a cheater. You're better than that. Ghost her. Start a massive GAL campaign and better your life. Pursue passions, get in shape, update your wardrobe, start planning and living life without her as if you were already divorced but don't bring it, or any R talk, up. Treat her like a neighbor you don't know that well that you're cordial with. Don't be moody, brooding, clingy, angry, etc. Avoid all negative emotions/displays. Keep convo's with her short, if you have to speak at all, and you always be the one to end the conversation and walk away. Be positive, confident, and happy about your life and your future.
Leave her to whatever seedy sleazy shenanigans she has going on. Not much of a bright future there. You don't have time for people like that. She's living a Jerry Springer Show life. You don't want to climb down to that level. Stay above it.
TxHubby all.......should I call her bluff and make arrangements to sit down with her and discuss our Divorce process with dividing things up, etc. I know it's a risk but she has been moved out for 3 weeks. Or do I just sit back, continue to detach and do nothing and vow to myself to never get sucked in again???
D is not a tactic to get a WAW's attention! Do not push D unless it's what YOU want. Because chances are, if you push it she will be a more-than-willing participant.
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