I've not read up on your whole situation and thinking about it, but I just remembered something that might be of help. You might already know about this, of course
Have you come across the 'grey rock' theory/behaviour? If you haven't, it might be worth checking out. I might help you back away from this whole situation in a really safe way.
I have a feeling that you might be really good at it, you're very aware/self aware and very good at controlling your thinking/actions in his regard. Might be worth a try?
Yes, I did read the gray rock theory, that's what I'm trying to do.
I donated a lot of his stuff to goodwill and put most of his furniture in a consignment store. I am just keeping for him the few things he asked for - his bedroom set and nice television, a few nice clothes. I'm happy to do that for him, as when he does move back out on his own he will have a nice bedroom and that will mean a lot to him. Getting rid of it now would be spiteful and likely to trigger a lasting grudge, which I DON'T want.
I donated a lot of his stuff to goodwill and put most of his furniture in a consignment store. I am just keeping for him the few things he asked for - his bedroom set and nice television, a few nice clothes. I'm happy to do that for him, as when he does move back out on his own he will have a nice bedroom and that will mean a lot to him. Getting rid of it now would be spiteful and likely to trigger a lasting grudge, which I DON'T want.
An encounter with an ex-roommate of Mr SEB this morning - I learned even more about the depth of his sociopathy. Perfect timing as it definitely offset the two dozen roses and schmaltzy card Mr. SEB sent this morning.
Yeah, I'm ok. Trying to respond to his texts with the bare minimum - gray rock approach. I have an excuse as I am studying for a big exam right now.
I'm trying to wait until he starts his intensive psychiatric treatment at the beginning of June before I inform him that we are really over. Meanwhile he posted a montage of photos of us together on FB yesterday calling me his "best friend and love of my life". All I think when I see those pictures is: "Wow, they look like such a nice couple, no one would ever suspect that he was LYING AND CHEATING ON HER THAT WHOLE TIME!"
Now that he has his phone back, I can see that he is reaching out to some of his former/other women. I'm hoping he lines something up to take the focus off of me.
The side chick also texted me yesterday. She asked me if he had his phone now and if he was contacting me - I told her yes. I think she's stuck in this weird place - she doesn't want to go back to him, and she doesn't want to see me go back given what she knows about him (she doesn't know that I know more than she thinks). BUT she's also still jealous and pissed off that he's calling me and not her. Guess it's finally sinking in to her that it was all lies when he told her how special" and different she was from all his other women.
Of course, he's still contacting me because he thinks I could still be useful to him. She just got evicted and is living out of her car while she tries to find a new apartment, so she can't help him in any way. Also I think he's really scared of her telling me his secrets (he doesn't know that we've already spoken).
Saw Fox news people tweeting about what a great guy Roger Ailes was and how he loved his wife - ummm, NOT. Guys who love their wives do not sexually harass other women at work. Suspect he was a sociopath just like ex-boyfriend.
