Thanks Kaizen. I did try to ONLY execute it and I got hit with messages from her like "why are you ignoring me", ""you are so transparent on not responding to me", etc... and that is why i decided to tell her as much. I think we are good from here. Thanks.
Me: 38 Her: 33 Bomb: 1/6/2017 Separated: 1/10/17 Together: 16 Years Son 12 Years Old She and Son still at the house Divorce Filed/Retracted Multiple Times Divorce: scheduled to be final 6/20/17
Hi Sellout, shes just wondering why she doesnt have you wrapped around her finger. When she asks you "why are you ignoring me" you can just say you are focusing on you or i am learning to move forward.
I might even go as far as saying, "nothing much to talk about if you are still w OM .... or since we are separating" but only if you truly mean it and are headed that way.
Me31 W31 M11yrs S6yrs 23Mar16-BD 9Apr16-W admitted EA w boss. 27Jun16-W Changed job and promised NC w OM. 14Jul16-Continued contact w OM.Start of Separation. 24May17-Divorced.
I think your choice was a good one. You placed a healthy boundary (boundaries are for protecting yourself, not trying to control others) and now you must stick to it. You also made sure her final impression of you was a good one, keeping it light and happy reminds her of your good qualities. Truly she is a fool for leaving you.
M 10yrs T 13yrs BD #1Oct 2015-PA between WAH and COW BD #2 April 2016-WH resumed PA, she broke it off Jan 2 2017 WH says he wants divorce April '17-Letting go 2018 D busted DD8, DS6, DS3
I need a MAJOR hit with a 2X4!!! After the baseball game yesterday, we embraced in a hug, took a selfies together (that i was tempted to send to OM), and went to dinner together as a family. Had good times along the way and have been friendly today. Stupid!!!!!
Me: 38 Her: 33 Bomb: 1/6/2017 Separated: 1/10/17 Together: 16 Years Son 12 Years Old She and Son still at the house Divorce Filed/Retracted Multiple Times Divorce: scheduled to be final 6/20/17
Yep, paid for dinner. My plan...well not real sure. She thinks I am dating someone and that is somewhat serious (neither of which are true). However when she stated this I didn't confirm or deny which pissed her off. Its such a messy situation. She told OM she had dinner with me and he was pissed stating that he thought I was trying to get her back, etc... what a warped situation that I don't know how to get out of.
Me: 38 Her: 33 Bomb: 1/6/2017 Separated: 1/10/17 Together: 16 Years Son 12 Years Old She and Son still at the house Divorce Filed/Retracted Multiple Times Divorce: scheduled to be final 6/20/17
She is enjoying getting attention from both of you.
IMO you have one move. Starting now no contact other than if it concerns your son. Detach and GAL. Move forward with the divorce if she wants to stop it she will.
Hugging her and taking her out dinner when she is in an open affair makes you look really weak.
You are sooooooo right. Its all about self control which I am obviously lacking. Uggggg, I hate this so much.
Me: 38 Her: 33 Bomb: 1/6/2017 Separated: 1/10/17 Together: 16 Years Son 12 Years Old She and Son still at the house Divorce Filed/Retracted Multiple Times Divorce: scheduled to be final 6/20/17
Me31 W31 M11yrs S6yrs 23Mar16-BD 9Apr16-W admitted EA w boss. 27Jun16-W Changed job and promised NC w OM. 14Jul16-Continued contact w OM.Start of Separation. 24May17-Divorced.
